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So do you think that we should choose our own soulmates or let the gods choose for us?

I think that both things ought to be done. What I mean is we ought to look for our soul-mate and seek the help of the gods. < This is a direct and objective response to your posted question.

I base the response on my believe that whatever is sought, one would benefit from using different sources and not be limited. However, individual belief system/s would determine how one would go about it. That is assuming the individual has a belief system, at all.

Also, some may believe in soulmates, others may not be sure if there is such a thing such as soulmate. Yet, others may not believe in soulmates at all. Or even think that one has found a soulmate, to later find out it was not so.

I looked for a while, trying to find my soulmate. The moment I stopped looking and just decided "forget it maybe I don't need anyone" I found him, and by doing something that I would never do. No its not dirty or anything, I simply tapped a stranger on the shoulder and walked by commenting to a friend that he was cute. Then ended up running into him again and not know it!

Point being, you can look all you like, nothing is stopping you from doing so, but your not going to look for a soulmate or twin flame, your going to be drawn to each other.

Or at least thats what I think.

My opinion: There are no soulmates only compatibility.

ive had this discussion this week referring to 'the spark'
between 2 people and whether it needs to be there for a relationship to last.

by definition 'soulmates' is described below

A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet -- a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful.

is not compatabiity the same?

~8thhunterscar~, I beg to differ.

~Pandora~ and I met under the most inconvenient of circumstances, and yet the love we feel for each other is not only a very deep essence, but it is also an unconditional bond.

I won't contest anything in this thread, but instead will offer the same advice as ~Pandora~ has. Only time and patience will grant anyone with the probability of communicating with their soulmates, as the Universe provides. The only thing I can add is that each person must be ready with their life's experiences before such a time passes before true love can be known.

Not really Marked, soulmate as its most commonly infers there is only "the one" also compatibility is based on logic whereas the lightning strike of "love" is based on feeling.

SS most would prolly beg to differ on this haha.

I'm stating this before I even start:
I;m not in some dream world or love is all you need crazy dream. The world sucks, it does and as bitter and terrible as it can be at times there is little to no energy that I feel I need to give to negativity

Now, that being said. The meaning of soulmate as was posted above does ring very true for me as well as -Soulshroude- But that is not saying that nothing ever goes wrong and everything is beautiful. But rather then dwell and bicker and fight to no end till we are bitter and hateful to each other. We talk. You cannot expect the Disney prince to appear and nothing ever go wrong. That is a boring relationship with out even the slightest passion and I would never want it

if you look at the definition in its entirety it suggests that soulmates are 2 people with the ultimate or complete compatibility

also my personal believe is that its the little things that count
the imperfections that we let go or dismiss that ensures the relationship lasts

To me the term "soulmate" is referring to the person who is a reflection of your own inner flame or being. This being said it is like the two are intertwined by the hands of Madam Fate.

I don't know if it is real. Honestly all I can say is that with millions of people living in this world it should be next to near impossible to find that person. But in the myths I've heard to even have a soulmate one must have had a very strong connection in an earlier life before becoming bound.

As stated above I don't think this means that the two will never fight nor never have issues because let's face it. So long as you have two opinions there will be problems.

So help from the goddesses and gods? Well I am not sure on that one. I believe if you ask help from the right ones for the right reasons it might help but in my own opinion only Madam Fate will decide if you shall ever find them.

Well first off let me touch subject on this "The One" vs "soulmate" basis. Logically in full cogent form, they are the same. Just different ways of thinking about it. One relies on faith, one relies on science.

But they both are in fact exactly the same, the connection of both "The One" and "soulmate" are intertwined as the exact same equation. It will be the person you spend the rest of this lifetime with.

Now, I met a woman whom I will say is a rather particular woman. A beautiful person both inside and out, and I'm not exaggerating int he least. We actually met back when MSN held free chat, well as time goes by we lose contact with those we enjoy... though it was by fate and blessing that we met again. Back then we were merely friends.

Now, we are very close. When we met again we kinda touched base, we were like meeting a new person all over again. In turn we truly found a stronger bond, cause at the first moment we spoke again we did not know who each other was. It took a few hints here and there to realize we were good friends before. Now the strange part of this is this...

Once we found out whom each other was, things got a bit strange to those who don't understand spiritual links. Now, best way to put it is this, it was a sudden rush of adrenaline and energy. An aphrodisiac in its purest form... we had to get to know another again in some form or manner, we had to spend what we could with another.

At first we simply casually played our cool, though behind everything we both were thinking the same... I want to be with this person. Now, when you can physically touch someone, and not be near them... and with a great deal of understanding and precision of simply thinking about it, you know that you are linked.

It is true, the statements above are defiantly pure and unadulterated in all forms of a soulmate or those logical scientific thinkers... the one. Its a perfect connection,a perfect link, but nothing halts the occasional scoff and argument. Nor would any of us truly wish such... The point is, that person is unconditionally there no matter what you two go through, or put each other through.

As for the answer, hit post too soon btw... Allow the fates to handle it, but keep your mind open to the possibilities of those around you being your soulmate.

No such thing as soulmates in my opinion. Love is an obsession and obsessions can fade

i dont think you can choose a soul mate. you can decide to live with someone...you can choose to try to love someone, and MAKE it work.
but there have been quite a few that i thought i would like to be with...but there was no chemistry at all.
so to answer you question, i think its pretty much in the hands of the gods.
~W~

I think the idea of soulmates is a little limited. You can find your soulmate in a friend, family member or a lover.

It's up to you to find these people and to keep them. Not the universe.

i believe that the job of finding your true soul mate may be a little difficult at first but if you look and or if they just show up in front of your face one day its actually a beautiful thing.

Each one of us falls into a mixed bag of our life experiences and a given ideological path... the essence of who your are is what you know and what you believe. When we look for a mate we either look for a lover who gives us what we need or don't have in our life's, or we look for a partner who complements us as we are. They are a few rare people who are able to be both a lover and a partner to us, but a soulmate is person who completely balances you. Just as they draw you in from the left to right into the center you in turn do the same for them. Soulmates are a true marriage, a harmony of the souls and when you find one you'll know it because even the simplest aspect of your life are never the same.
Your life is no longer about left or right, good or bad, light or dark... every category and aspect of your life is reduced to a simple with -or- without.

pandorasoul,

It has been great to have read how you found the one you love by an unexpected action of a tap on the shoulder. Equally inspiring was what you shared that you had been looking for your soulmate. Yet, it came to pass when you were not looking.

Equally appreciated is how you expanded your thoughts in regards to love/soulmates, to not be seen as "peaches and cream" all the time. Rather, what you conveyed in your eloquent post, I must say has been experienced by me in all relationships; to include not just romantic relationships. Rather, relationships of all dynamics.

I believe that such insight offered by you is worthwhile. As an individual may think that because he/she had a "bad day" or hard times, actually in a relationship, the one they are with may not be their soulmate. So thank you@ pandorasoul,

If I may, Blessings from your mutual chosen source, be with you both in your love.

Sincerely,

Victorya

Dremora,

Thank you for the magnificent shared narrative of your experience with the one you love. It is great to come to the post and read what is shared by those whom choose too.

I'm thinking Severus hit the nail right on the head.

Someone the compliments you or gives you something you need. The idea of with-without. If your life is fine without someone chances are they aren't it. Even if you can learn to live without them.

Thank you SinginGhost88,

I enjoyed your posting as well. It pointed out the fact that love in any form is a gift and should never be under estimated... just cultivated.

I do not feel as though we "choose" our soulmate. I didnt choose my soulmate...it was something much more than that. I have no words to describe it but I do know that I did not "choose" him. I just knew as did he. I am not sure if its was God's plan (or another deity) but I do believe everyone has a soulmate. Sometimes the soulmate is someone we think we hate but turns to love...the soulmate topic is very hard to explain I know that before we found each other I didn't feel whole. Here is an article that can better describe how I feel about this topic.


The Split-Apart Theory
The first ever written reference to each person having a destined mate was given from the ancient Greek philosopher, Plato (427 BC-348 BC). Plato's theory was that each human being is part of one soul, in which they only have half of. The idea is that the soul was "split-apart" and separated from each other– and, since that time, the two halves have been forever searching for one another in order to join together and regain their sense of original created wholeness.

Many serious theorists propose that each of these alleged halves of the one soul learns all of life's lessons at their own pace, and if the two halves happen to cross paths at some point during life, they may have a powerful bond; because they are each other's "split-apart". They find a truly genuine connection, they're so alike in emotions or issues, that in some cases it's too much for them to handle.

There are many studies and theorists that support this type of idea. As well as, a few movies, such as, "The Butcher's Wife" or many other romance movies out there. Another source that I feel definitely supports the idea of "split-aparts" is the story of Adam and Eve. I'm not saying any religious preferences and opinions of my own personal life. I'm simply stating that the bible is a very important book to hundreds of thousands of people across the globe, and the story of Adam and Eve talks about them being one and being split in two. Being each other's "split-apart".

Here's where my personal, hopeless romantic self kicks in. Do I believe in a "split-apart", a "meant to be" a destiny? It's a very abstract and sometimes unappealing idea to many, but I honestly believe in the soul and a "meant to be". Each person has a "split-apart" out there, but they don't always find them. For example, the people who are forever alone. They didn't come across the other half, and decided not to settle on just any companion to keep them company. And you could object to that statement and say that it's false and that some people just chose to be alone and like to be alone, but what if they were to come across that one person, that person that is their "split-apart" would it change everything?

Now the question that rises is, when/if you meet your "split-apart" how will you know? I read an article about a man who claimed he had met his "split-apart", ten years previously to writing his article. He claimed it was "too much" for him, like Plato's theory states could occur. The way the man explained his reason for knowing it was her, was by stating that it was "an easy, natural kind of love", "a different kind of love he had ever felt." The man said he knew when he saw her, that it was something out of the ordinary; that when he looked her in the eyes, everything just made sense.

When/if one were to meet their "split-apart", I believe it should be unique, unplanned and give you a feeling that you've never felt with another. I guess it's one of those things that you are unsure about, until you look at someone and wonder, "Is this what it feels like?"

http://thethoughtsoftracy.blogspot.com/2009/08/split-apart-theory.html

i think fate chooses our soul mates.

I honestly think its a little of both, i think the person is put in our path via the gods or goddess, or god and they leave it up to us on weather or not we actually make the move to help our selves, so that we don't get reliant on them for everything.


-Apache

To find a soul-mate, you must believe that you have a soul and that souls have feelings and emotions. So, my opinion is, if soul reside in your body and only come out after you die, then, finding a soul mate during your existence is impossible. two cents to the subject.

markus666,

Your response, has caused me to think of what you stated. As it is also possible that our soulmate may be found not just here!

Thank you. It is for this reason that I like a dynamic of posts within the diversity of opinions.

I think iots a combination of our free choice mingled with Gods intentions.. A Love Game of Destiny! lol (maybe I( should make a video game based on it! ) lol

If you have a connection in your soul for someone, that is a good enough reason for me :)

I knew when I was 14 that I had found the boy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... and he didn't even know me way back then.

He does now :)

I don't think I have a soul mate I am so odd. I haven't found anyone who can even kinda understand me so I have give up I guess it is in Gods hands now.

demi,

Hi, I am intrigued about how your soulmate did not even know you and you knew he was the one? Would love to hear more, if you want to share.

Thanks.

You don't always get to choose who your soul mate is. And you shouldn't let any gods decide who it is for you.

I think people choose their soul mate for a specific lifetime or lifetimes. Remember, free will determines much, if not all. So, I believe before we incarnate into human form, we pick and choose karmic lessons and experiences that we want to have and learn from. Soul mates included.

i believe that some people have soulmates and some just arent meant to have one.

I think we should choose our soulmates, but also look for guidance in the matter. Just my personal opinion and take on it.

I choose to believe that we may have a set soul mate but that we can find more of them as we go along in life.

More than 1 in a lifetime? Thats gotta be rare.

For those that found their soul mate, I bet you they are free of addiction, got a good job, money and for sure looking physical good. The confusion about a Soul mate is because there are not conflict within the relationship and everything is going as your desire want. Is pure psychology. Also, WOW, you only mentioned GOD, what about the Goddess, they also can infiltrate their little wands and get you a soul mate, assuming it exist. (then, I called the sou lmate...IT)

my view is a soulmate is made for you. and you dont choose them. i also beleive that some point in your lifetime you are braught together with them

no gods
not fate
not you

death decides the end of all things
and not just a physical end ether

for nothing is forever except death


soul mate is a false hood

Ask a room full of people if they believe there is a person out there who looks just like they do... a double ganger and they'll say sure or it's possible.

Ask them if there is a soulmate, someone who is your exact match and you'll hear a room full of people who doubt the very notion.... why is that??

Well if this was a room the doubters would be the minority, so it kinda blows that statement out of the water.

I believe that you find each other. Soul mates are someones who are ment to be together. Doesn't matter how you came to be, or how long it takes.

Personally I don't really believe in soulmates. Sad I know....I used to but I have had a lot of heartache in relationships so maybe I just haven't found "the one" yet. I believe that if there is a soulmate then you will find each other but I don't think it's something you can really look for. It's just one of those things that when it becomes the right time in your life that it will happen. I would like to believe that my soulmate is out there but the older I get the less I believe in it.

Let your heart choose them even if your heart is cold

I do not believe in soul mates, you either love someone or you don't, you can either live with them or you can't. Some people may be more loved than others of course. Human are just animals and so they ought to have more than one mate in a lifetime.

It has always been my belief that soul mates are not limited to a lover...anyone can be the other half that makes a person feel whole. My soul mate is my best friend (whom is female). She is the yen to my yang and has always been.

In response to the question I believe both, Love finds you when you do not seek it, it is much like a long lost memory, the harder you try to grasp it, the farther it slips from you. Patience and peace, allow yourself to be open to the possibility and live your life.

So far as if I believe in them, I do to some degree personally believe in soulmates, though I won't hold my breath, I have a life to live, and a great many things to do in the short time I have here. :P

Soulmates are the longing that cannot be quenched. No matter how you deny your feelings, they are always there and cannot be removed by any mannor of activities. It is an eternal bond.

everybody should find and search their soulmate with a help of the gods to provide the sings

I believe like when we least expect it, we will find the one. I certainly have not found mine, but from what I hear that is when it usually happens.

I found mine, we just haven't bonded yet. It will happen soon.

i don`t think we choose our soulmate. we just find each other

There is no soul mate, just compatibility.
People believe there is only one person out there for them that they can spend the rest of their lives, which is not true because anyone can be with you for the rest of your life provided there is some compatibility.

I do not feel you choose your soulmate, its something that just is. But can you go through life without finding your mate and still be happy ? Can you love another and never "miss" your soulmate ? I wonder do all of us have a soulmate or just a few ? Just a few questions to ponder and may never be answered.

I think.. we are all gifted to have a lifemate.
The feeling of somthing missing or lonleyness,
sadness and having this strange feeling of being
empty. This should already tell you, your heart is calling
to it's mate. the other-half of your exsistance.
you and your lifemate .. are actually one being.
Without eachother you are not complete.
but,
to-each-is-own.

I can NOT stand being so far away from my lifemate.
I will not know what it feels like to live or be alive...
untill one day we meet,bond, and live life right.
By being in eachothers arms.
Untill then,
this life is meaningless.

i dont think anyone actively picks their soulmate, nobody does. a soulmate just is. they are the other part of you that you didnt realise you were missing. you feel whole and complete when your around them, and empty when they are away.
when i met my husband i knew instantly and so did he, we have been together for 6yrs and have never spent more than a day apart since we first met.
when you find your soulmate you cant decide you want a new one or decide a few months down the line to call them your soulmate, you recognise them instantly and cant stand to be apart. your just trying to make something of the relationship that isnt there-but that doesnt mean you cant live happily ever after, dont get me wrong, you can spend a lifetime with them and be happy, but they wont be your true soulmate, if you met them you would know, trust me, and it wouldnt compare. (but these could just be the ramblings of someone in love :-p)

To me its bassed on a spiritual level, when two people meet and then your spirit side connects in all levels then you know you found the one, but sometimes it doesn't always work out the way you were hopping. It happened to me sadly I don't know if a vampire is meant to be with a Demi God but we had a strong connection and now his so messed up so my lucks are fadding fast :(

Well in order to answer this question, we must first decide whether or not we believe in Soul Mates. And then...I guess before we could answer that we must decide whether or not people have souls. And then we must also determine whether or not there is a God, or a set of Gods that do exist, and can actually do the leading or choosing for us.
I'm sure someone has already made similar points to those that I'm about to make, but to be honest, I haven't read every response to this thread.
I'm not certain, and I don't believe anyone can be, but I think there is something more to people than just blood, guts, and brain stuff. I believe there may be something in all of us...something like a soul. But whether or not that soul is what causes us to exhibit the personality traits or consciousness that we exhibit, I don't know. What if the Soul is nothing more than a tool...something we won't actually use until our physical bodies die. A seperate consciousness we aren't aware of; something that knows all about life and death, and the universe and what not. Something that's much more than what we are now. I'm rambling wihout getting to a point. I guess people have souls...but if that were the case, why are some people so horrible? Now I guess I'm trying to assess whether or not a soul can have morals. But then again I guess if a person isn't aware of their soul, their actions have nothing to do with it. I don't know. Sorry.
Anyway, yeah, people have souls. But what would make two people 'soul mates'? I know of some Greek myth stating that people were basically comprised of two beings smashed together into one, and that the Gods fearing the 'power' of this particular incarnation of mankind, split them into two, and that's where soul mates come from. The idea is that we go through life looking for, quite literally, 'our other half'. But I don't think people think of this story when they think of soul mates. They just think of a person that's perfect for them in every conceivable way. But why? What makes that person perfect for them? I don't believe in soul mates. I don't believe in a person being created for the sake of fulfilling the life of another. I believe we are all our own entity, you know, seperate and complete, but we have the ability to take a lover, or a spouse, or a friend, or whatever. Simply because of you know, interests, and similarities, and strong 'chemistry'. I think there is a difference in being 'made for someone', and loving someone for who they are.
As for Gods leading us to our soul mate. If there is a God, or if there happens to be quite a few of them, or if maybe the Universe is guiding us here and there...if there is someone we were meant to meet up with and be happy with, I'd like to think that rather than stumbling around blind, we are on the 'path to happiness', and if there is someone that would make us happy, then maybe our paths would lead us to that person.
To sum it up, people have souls, I don't believe in soul mates, but I do believe there are certain people we were meant to meet just as there are certain things we are meant to do, so yeah, I believe there may be an external force guiding us.

To me a soul mate is your balance and who you are on the inside. You will not find your soul mate unless you love yourself first. A soul mate will not complete you he or she will compliment you. A soul mate grows with you and keeps your other half in a balance that sometimes we cannot do ourselves. We can have many soul mates as because our souls have traveled many life times but it is the last life we have had or the many ones we search for that one person we are most close to more like who we are as individuals.

I have many soul mates in friends and in lovers but none are my match totally so in fact I am still in search of mine but have stopped because mine will find me when he chooses to and when he knows I am ready.

I don't believe in soul-mates, plain and simple.

I think one should not worry about it.

I don't think there is such a thing as soul mates. A lot of people find someone they're compatible with more than others and then that person dies for some reason or another. They find another they're compatible with and keep going. That would mean they have more than one soul mate if you believed in it. Which one is the "real" one and were they meant to be with the second truly or is there yet another person they're supposed to see? It's all chance and finding the one that meshes with you enough that you can live with them and have no worries.

I think the whole purpose of a soul mate is that you don't get to choose who it is.

Not sure I could force myself to believe such a thing as "soulmate" any more.
Years ago, sure. Now, yea not gonna happen.

Guess growing old has made me bitter.

Oh, I don't think it's made you bitter. :) You're more just not tied down by young peoples' fantasies of what love is "supposed" to be like.

Not trying to offend... but... What does being young and idealistic have to do with a soulmate or the power of a true love??

Just because a person is jaded or has been hurt, because they close themselves to the idea of true love, simply as a defense, that some how makes the possibility of it a fantasy wasted on unexperienced youthfulness.

I Think Not!!

In my opinion you are simply lying to yourself in order to spare yourself the possiblity of pain. That for some folks that's why you don't find it in the first place

You misinterpreted my meaning, Dear. ^_^

What I meant is that younger people nearly always say they've found their soul mates because they have fantastical ideations about love and what it's supposed to be. Those that have been jaded and desensitized to these ideations actually know what love is, more often than not, and truly do find the one they're compatible with rather than bouncing from person to person and thinking they're the one every time.

I think its a bit of both ... I do believe in fate and soul mates ... but I also believe that "god doesn't help someone who doesn't help themselves" ... we cant sit there and take it for granted ... we got to work for it ... whether be it finding that special someone or ... making that relationship work.

I would like to believe in the concept of a soulmate but as of yet it isnt proven.

I guess I feel that when it happens, it happens and you will know.

I'm not saying to go out there and search like crazy, but you have to be willing to take chances and risks. The relationship doesn't work out? That's fine, there are billions of people in this world and that one just wasn't the one for you.

Leaving it up to the Gods without doing any work just seems silly. (:

I agree with Katilyn. It's seems rather presumptuous that your perfect soul-mate will be gift-wrapped and handed to you whilst you sit there and twiddle your thumbs, or so I believe.
I think that the process of finding your soul-mate is part of what makes them worthwhile. After all, isn't it the journey that defines the destination? Soul mate is a term that, to me, means complete acceptance and comfort. Why would you want that before you discover yourself and become an individual? It's better to find your soulmate rather than have them presented to you when you are incapable of being anything other than hopelessly dependent.

I am not sure I believe that there is one predestined person out there that will be the missing half to your whole. That would be a really nice idea/thing though. I think the soulmates idea is a highly romanticized notion and I think it helps people emotionally to believe that the myth is a reality. When a relationship ends and feelings are hurt, it helps us to say "oh well.... he/she clearly wasn't my soulmate.... next." Not saying I am not open to the idea that there may be someone out there perfect for me; I'm just not going to be surprised if that person isn't out there or if I don't find them. I guess I am jaded.....

I believe in love. If the one who is to be my beloved how I wished that I would find this.

8thhunterscar's post: "Well if this was a room the doubters would be the minority, so it kinda blows that statement out of the water."




That is because this a site full of vampire wannabes and those who believe in all sorts of things, so it does not count. Logically speaking. there is no soul mate. you either love someone enough to marry them, live with them, have kids with or you don't. simple as.

I don't really know if I believe in soul mates. I think its all a matter of chemistry and what you have in common with each other. Both people have to be willing to put effort into the relationship. You have to overlook imperfections and love them for who they truely are. There will be fights and arguments but that's normal. You need the strength and will to make your relationship work. It's not easy. That's part of the challenge of love, making it work.

I think they are chosen for us. You just have to get lucky enough to find the one who holds the other half of your heart. Lucky for me I found mine and I'm only 16, then i helped my friend find hers who is actually the boyfriend of mine at the moment and she's only a year older

i thin that it happens so seemlessly when it does that we dont really need to think of it too much in the end

For me, I think when you find your soul mate, you'll know it. You may find this person while looking, or it may be a surprise when you least expect it. I guess my answer is this....you can do both....but in the end, I think our souls find their mate eventually on their own.

I believe it to be a fabrication

a story told to young children
so they carry false hope to adulthood

what is perceived has true love nowadays

i find it to be materiel attachment


most call it love yourself


have a car

have a job

have a home of your own

then the so called soul mate
the right one for you
will magically fall into your lap

someday

I hope people become wise
to this emotional slavery pulled over eyes as a gift


and may its lies burn to ashes with every great lie told in history

I may not live to see it

however

the day will come

when the world will be purged of these false ideas called

soul mates

true love

that has been nothing but a plague upon mankind

and may all of us

give the only proper and true idea

that deserves any respect


and that is death

im always loking for her.buts she would have to be the dominant partner.im just wired to be submissive.but i prefer women.and shed have to be nearby.no point in somebody in another country.or miles away here in england or i wont have the money to go there.long distance relationships always fail.compatability is also a factor.if she does not like cats and sf id have nothing to talk about.

Soulmates, I myself am a hopless romantic. My opinion is that we don't look nor does god bring our soul mate to us. I believe that we just stumbble upon them and when we do we just know its that person.

I most certenly beleive in soulmates. I met mine my first year of high school. Of course it took him many years to figure it out but he has. We have been together many times been engaged once in high school ( both to young to get married) and r now together again. We enjoy spending time together playing games ( video or card games) watching tv or movies or just hanging at the park.

He is the one that I always seen my self going old with. I dreamt about him often though I was with someone else. When I seen him for the first time in years I got the same butterflys in my stomic as I did before and the same for when he kisses me. Even now there r still times that when he kisses me I get butterflys and it just proves to me that we r ment to be together and that the gods kept our paths to where we would find each other once more. I couldn't imagen my life with out him in it.

I gave a problem with the logical aspects of the term, "soul-mate" If you believe that the "soul" is a migratory spirit being, how do you have such a person, being that after death, their soul might go in a different direction.

Not to bash on you MM, but logic is the problem.

See the forgotten esoteric practices of our past, use to teach us about the balance of the universe and duality.

This is not what we do today... In modern times we are taught from an early age how to think rationally and tangibly. This is a very left brain method of education and it has more harmful effects than positive. The left brain deals with logic, details, facts, patterns, practicality, science and math whereas the right brain deals with feelings, intuition, symbols, images, risk-taking, philosophy and religion.
With modern societies push for government controlled educational curriculum, generation after generation of youth are being taught to focus only on the facts and figures... the numbers.

In the military they train you to shoot at a metal siluette of a person, you shoot it and the traget is knocked over buy the force of the bullet. You do this thousands of time so that when you see something pop up in front of you on the battle field you react the same way... you shoot it instinctively and the target falls down.
We focus on Repetition in our studies and it is used to train children subconsciously to accept what they are learning in the same way.
Children are not rewarded for questioning the validity of the information they receive, they are ridiculed and given low grades. However, children who blindly accept the information as true and merely regurgitate the information on command when it is time to take a test, those children go on to become the decision makers in our government, law, medicine, business and any other occupation with power and prestige.

This way of thinking with only our left brains has caused us to see the world not as it really is. We are given the illusion of our individual bodies... The idea that we are separate an independent of everything around us. This along with the misinformation of our true history, has manifested the idea that we all think independently from one another. With this misunderstanding it would seem impossible to scientifically explain telepathy, clairvoyance, spiritual mediums and other phenomenon dealing with transferring information between sources without physical means of communication.
It takes the metaphysical and makes it a dirty word, best left to wackos and cultists. Once again you are ridiculed into blind exceptence of group think!!
So it's no suprize that even in setting like this forum people will fall back on what they believe to be the truth based on how and what they were taught.

Well what if it's your thinking that's flawed??

When you understand that there is a common spiritual bond between all things in the universe and that we are all part of one source energy, no phenomena is unexplainable. This simple understanding fills all the holes in modern religions. The ideology of reincarnation, and the soul being your consciousness and your consciousness being the real you explain everything even further. The idea of de-javu, predictions of the future and literally every event, occurrence or anomaly ever experienced by human beings become clear.
This seems difficult to accept for most and this is quite understandable because you are told over and over again not to trust in feelings and what your instincts tell you but to think your way through a topic.

Do you reall believe that think your way to a soul mate will work??

See the most detrimental effect of being pushed away from holistic thinking with the full brain, into a strictly left brain type of thought is that every male and female both possess feminine and masculine qualities to their persona. This has nothing to do with being a man or woman it is the simple balance of duality. This balance is represented by the left and right brain... Yin and Yang, Black and White, Light and Dark, and every other form of duality which are suppressed when you only use one side of the mind to govern your everyday approach to life.
It forces us up front to oppose one while excepting the other, so from the start you have an ideological, spiritual, and physical imbalance occuring. The end result is we are taught that it is possible to always be happy and never sad, that we can be good and never bad, that we can be caring all the time without needing to be self-serving. We are tough that we can live in harmony, never opposing anyone else's point of view or opinion and that the accepting and understanding of them is somehow enlightening even though we know that this is not reality we blindly except the group think.

The esoteric and Arcane teachings of the ancients were designed to show us the cycles of duality and just because creation was a good thing does not mean that the opposition to that cycle (in death) was a bad thing. This is the fundamental flaw and the error which has occurred in modern thinking, it is the thing which keeps men from actually obtaining higher states of consciousness because they remain unbalanced without realizing it.

Luckily this understanding of duality is also the key to correcting that lack of balance. This knowledge of the inner self and application is "the path" and it is the only path to your soul and anyone elses.

The theory of soulmates do come into materialisation in real life. The ultimate meeting of the minds. I believe that a soul is a fragment of a higher being. In a way we are all soulmates. But mankind has what it's known as Free Will. This is the seed that takes root in the mind. Beings of polar opposite personalities can find their soulmates in each other. But what differentiates a soulmate (husband or wife) from the rest is the ultimate meeting of the minds.

I don't believe if someone you were close with dies you are doomed to never find that kind of love again. However, i do believe in soulmates and that we have more than one. I agree with compatibility being the most logical way to put it, but it also goes much deeper than that, esp for those whom encounter another which "feels" like we've met before, or seen them before, or have that extra awareness of having known them in another lifetime. Not everybody I know goes through this type of experience, but there are those of us that have, perhaps a few times, perhaps several, but whenever it comes to the question should we do it ourselves or let the Gods handle it? I would say, don't try to force someone to hurry into your life, one should allow it to happen naturally and trust that when the time is right, it WILL happen. Mindset goes a long way.

I feel freaking lucky, I gave up and told my parents if tey wanted grandbabies to find me someone and they only got one shot so they had to make it right the first time, the hooked me up with the most perfect person for me. Love him. I can see no one more perfect for me and I hope that other people will find just as wonderful a solution to the soulmate

All of my friends have found my belief in soulmates quite unusual. I honestly believe that a person has more than one soulmate. It is fate for them to meet and when. It has always been the only thing that has made sense to me considering I've known several people who have had that connection with a person and another later on when the first dies or they decide to end things because they're lives conflict too much with each other.

I also believe we're meant to meet each soulmate at a predestined moment. =] But that's just me.

Im thinking of the movie /musical. Headwig and the angry inch. Cannot force anything.

I think it just happens... I don't think gods have anything to do with it, nor do I believe that we pick our soulmates; well we choose to stay with them, but that's it.

I think it just has a lot to do with chemistry, and how compatible you are with someone. If you click with someone really well, then they could potentially be a soulmate if you are into them like that. I don't think any one person can be your soulmate. I think there are many capable people, but when you meet said person you stop looking thus excluding anyone else from becoming your soulmate.

Just my thoughts,
LoW~

I Believe we all have that person we are ment to have in our lives. Doesnt mean that they HAVE to be our lovers.
My soulmate is split between my two wonderful kids whom I love with all my heart.

I'm of the opinion that in today's society the term "soul-mate" is widely taken out of term.
Much like Chiyo stated, Soul Mates aren't ONLY to be lovers, but to be friends, family, etc.
And there is more than One 'soulmate' per person. It's mathematically impossible for there to be only one person in the entire world that you bond with on so many intense levels. In fact, statistically speaking, there will always be someone better suited for you out there somewhere.

It's all in who YOU choose, and whom you love.

Just My Humble Opinion.

I don't believe in soulmates. I used to, but i've been through way to much to believe in it anymore. I'd rather just be with someone that treats me right.

The Soul in my opinion is migratory so the term might be highly innacurate.

I haven,t found my soulmate in terms of the other half of me, but I have found a soul mate in terms of a friend, when me and her started talking, we just clicked and that was the best thing that has happened to me. I look at her as my Soul Sister, and wouldn't have it any other way, she is a part of me now, and I am a part of her now.

As for a soul mate in terms of my other half... I'm still looking, and doubt that I will ever find him, but I'm keeping a positive attitude about it and eventually I will find him, or he will find me

I for one dont believe in a sole mate..... And i dont believe that there is someone out there for everyone or there wouldent be so meany lonely soles.

Soul Mates.

Interesting none the less, I mean the way I see it, if you believe in soul mates that's your thing, but I believe when you love someone so much to the point you are willing to do anything for them, and willing to stand by them no matter what..i believe in away that's a soul mate..someone that will always be there by your side no matter what..even if it means someone dying..and Vise Versa. but that's just me.

With me, I believe there is someone for everyone but yet it takes years to find them. There is a time when you can stand back and look upon that person that is there.and in you heart you can believe they are your soul mate..due to the fact of how they are with you..but time is a true test to see if they are someone you can truly call a soul mate.

Now this is to angel..from her post about soul sister, I DO believe in that..due to the fact well I believe I've met mine, every time we talk I just feel happy, I feel close to her, and well to be honest I don't get close to other females..i really don't..but this one touched my heart and soul in ways I don't believe someone else could..and we think a lot way to much...but i wouldn't change that...but as angel said..I believe soul sisters are real.

Personally, I don't believe in soulmates. There is someone out there for everyone,yet a Soulmate? That's pushing it for the most part.

I believe that finding a soulmate can be difficult. It doesn't always work out either. I know this from experience.

I believe some people are kindred souls, but I not 100% soul mates. I'm not sure how I feel about the term.

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