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I would like some of your thoughts on this I can feel peoples pain and emotions all the time is their anyway to to control this?

Not that i can seriously relate to this "Problem" If thats what it is to you, i can tell you what you may already know. The term for this is called Empathy. I havent read up to much about this subject but i do beleive that everyone feels a certain amount of empathy. My advice to you is simply to use it. Dont block it out, many people wont admit to there own pain but having someone else feel it may make them feel less alone.
So use it, only for good!
I wish you the best of luck.

P.S Google the subject. You might find yourself a forum dedicated to it.

thanx i will it just gets hard sometimes

I believe there is a difference between Empathy and actually knowing a person well enough to the degree that you know how they feel.

When you say you feel others pain, etc., do you mean those who you are close to, or just about everyone? Where is the line drawn?

people that are close to me but i have also felt others sometimes to

It is no uncommon for a person to be so close to another that a strong bond is formed which would allow you to really notice if a person is happy, down, etc.

Also, sometimes the way a stranger carries themselves gives off how they feel. For instance, when a smoker blows the smoke out to the left, they disagree. To the right, they are indifferent. Straight forward, they agree.

If your empathic nature is causing you real problems then you must learn to control it.

This can be done by shielding which is very simple.

I'm the same way. I'm an empath and I feel people's emotions all the time. You have to learn to put up a shield. This shield is like putting yourself into a bubble. This will be hard at first, but practice will make it better. Another is to block your emotions. If you get to involved in others it will affect you to the point that you’re now their feelings. Open your mind to solve it and close your heart in feeling it to much.

ve tryed not to feel but it hasnt worked it is really hard i even tryed meditation

It's not wanting "not to feel it", it's saying no I won't feel it. You are in control of your body and soul. Only you can control what happens to you, and until that is accepted you will never stop it.

omg how can i not feel? that doesnt sound so easy to do

I am not an empath but I do consider that I have a certain sensitivity to the energies around me.

I think it is an exercise like XXDawnXX said, you need to practice thinking you are in a bubble. Creating this mental shield may help you control what and when you feel these things.

i know what dawn meant but it isnt easy for me to try and do that i have always felt things since i am 13 so thanx all i will keep trying

It's a gift, not a problem.
You need to understand the gift to be able to control it. Open to it and don't focus on it. Other than that, I can only recommend a teacher.

The only way to stop this, to calm the bombardment, is to sets good blocks in place and keep them there.

Carvall was right dear coven sister you need to learn how to shield

This is just you being atuned to non verbal communications and voice inflections. I don't mean to sound like this isn't a 'power', it is in a way. It is called the power of perception. You care and want to help, so you are able to pick up on these nonverbals and voice inflections better than others. That is a good thing for the most part. I means you would make a very good counselor with training in how to deal with problems as well as identifying they exist. Kudos, most people couldn't care less about each other or thier feelings. You apparently do have the gift, as it were.

Hon, sooner or later you will learn to tune it out when you do not need it.

it seems to me that you're an empath... or maybe a kinda.... and i could suggest meditation... so as you can control yourself and not to get "involved" in other people's emotions... if you want more help just message me... i'll be glad to help you...

thanx everyone for all your help i know this is a gift and i am trying to understand it i went and did some research on what a empath is and what to do to help with all the emotions that i feel i am going to try to do the bubble exercise to help me thanx for that info.

I am empathic. i feel the energy, vibration, emotion, and physical pain of others. i am trying to learn how to use this gift for a greater purpose and healing. the worst is around pregnant women. if there is a problem i get vibes that freak me out. many times the vibe has been right, and there was a problem. If i pick up an energy i usually talk about it with the person. this lessens the effect. If i pick up too much energy i will usually smudge with sage.

I can feel energy and very certain ones i can feel their pain really bad...Guess it depends..

I am a serious empath. I take people's pain away and add it to my own. I do not see it as a problem because I am able to use the energy I gain from them and use it to help them in return. The only way I have found to shut it off, or at least dampen it, is by deep concentration and strong barriers.

very much so my dear through a way of channleing you energy if you would like to know more pls come talk to me.

I dont have much 'insight' on this, as its never happened. But, I will say try and sheild it out. Think about something complicated, that takes a lot of thought. Read a book, write.. something that will keep your brain busy.

I have met a few people that can feel my emotins at times. I thnk that you would hae to be in touch with that part of you, but it can be a very helpfull thing if you have a friend that needs help and someone to understand them.

In my opinion, there is no true or false empath...It just is. The feeling what others are feeling, neither taking away from, or giving to. It is the sensing of the emotions, giving hints and intuitions of what others are going through emotionally, letting one contribute advice the best way imaginable. Those who thing there is such a thing as true empath, are the self rightious. No one is special, we are all empathic in one form or another, especially the lady folk. Never tell a mother empathy does not exist. Crying in anothers arms, then having them cry with you is empathy.

Point in case, quit with the be all end all with these subjects. Opinions count, but not all are honourable.

ah sweetie. you an impath.

Lostfairy and me are bestest friends,a nd we feel each others pains. like my stomich hurt a few weeks ago, and i didnt tell ehr, and then she told me hers did, and it was at the exact same time as mine. and we also feel each others feleings like sad, happy, angry....

You speak as though it was a patronizing experiance, such a young age to be wondering about empathy. Let it grow within you and you may find the true reason why such empathies are apparent.

thanx soul i apreciate your wisdom on this i am glad i know what i have now i have always struggled with knowing peoples feelings and not understanding what it was i had.

I have empathy too hun and at first its not easy to deal with and hard for you to know where you begin and end and when its someone else affecting you. I can be controlled by filtering but using various shields and you can decide how much you want to know and feel about people. Its taken me time to learn and develop and I see empathy as a gift now not a curse.

The most important thing is learning to cut off from everyone even loved ones each day so you can find yourself and find a calm centre.

I can feel other people's emotions some of the times. With me I have to really know the person and be real close to them. I am still trying to control it.

I am totally sensitive to those in proximity or that I know. I have learned to block well. I feel completely overwhelmed if I don't take those steps.

i am the same way and i havent found a way i jus try to get used to it and let thingz be the way they r

I am an empath as well and have learned to block it. It is really hard when I am around a lot of people so I stay away from large crowds. It can be very helpful when getting to know someone.

Empathy can be difficult to deal with. Especially if you have a job dealing with the public alot. I get physically ill sometimes when I can feel someone's pain or evil inside them. I just try to not get as close to people as I used to. It has helped so far.

you will in time learn to control it and shield yourself from too much pain or feeling of other it justs takes time and concentration on yourself and self control.

yes, there is a way to control it. You must find your center...

I can only do this around people I am close to. So I wouldn't consider myself and empath. My best friend and I seem to be able to feel what the other is feeling, but I've heard that's normal when you're really close to someone. I guess if it is other people too (people you're not close to) then you should probably look into it some. You can use google, or probably any search engine to find stuff about this. Good luck.

i am a very powerful empath so i know how it is

I am some empathic.... I don't like crowds of people especially in small areas...
With time comes the ability to handle things better.. I agree with others on that.
In the mean time.. Keeping yourself balanced and grounded is a key off set what comes in.

You are an empath, and need to be trained how to control this.........as you are new at it, do not try to handle it on your own

my thoughts meditate and google

you can either walk on eggshells when around this person or you can try to numb them to negative emotion so that their intense emotions are lesser. screw perscripetion for anti-depressants.

*dont quote me on this because im not a head doctor.

Work small amounts of time. Just keep saying I will not feel for 30 mins. then 1 hr. ect till you learn long enough to relax. You must have time for yourself in order to help others.

I have been wondering the same....and there is no true way to do it with out deadening it completely..... you have to except it and learn how to keep calm when it happens

the best way to control this is through meditation and practicing putting up mental "sheilds" you can find differant techniques for this in many beginer level wiccan and pagan books. visualization plays a keey part in "sheilding" your-self

i personally do not know of a way to stop it but i would say to try and calm your own nerves before trying to calm theres.

wow.. Thats verry intresting...

With any gift you have to learn to develop it, the more you learn to harness it the more you will learn to control it. Try visualizing a brick wall or barrier completely surrounding you that blocks unwanted energies. If you practice this, in time the shielding will be almost automatic

Feeling others people pain is sometimes hard to block for me I can do it with the people I am very close to, sometimes if it gets to much I have to lock myself literally away from the world to refocus and get my own energy level up to protect to myself.

Dont worry too much about it, just eat something sweet at the moment.

I think it is ok to be empathetic but we just need to keep our remotions in perpective. We need to know when we can help and when we can't. We also effect our own emotions so if you are focusing too much on what someone else is feeling maybe you should just try to focus on yourself.

i can usually pick up on people i'm close to, even from aways away.

we all react different to different situations... know yourself and your limit... if you feel to much, spare yourself...

we are human and its a good trait sensitivity seperates us frm other animals

I think you must be incredibly lucky- i can understand that it is a hard cross to bear though at times- are you pagan or anything like that- in which case it might be possible for you to build up some sort of psychic barrier for when everything becomes a bit much

its a gift and a curse you an impath sweetie

em-path oops

i have found it is difficult to control these feelings i never could figure out why

Sis, You're a very caring person.
You probably just have been blessed with the gift of Caring for others..

And to "control" this you'll just have to try not to care so much for others XD

Its called empathy and you can't really control it unless you chose to completely ignore the feelings of others.

I don't think it is possible that this is a power therefore my belief that there isn't any way to control it. Its a natural thing.

Its like being able to look into someones eyes and see that they are upset, or hearing someone grumble and you can tell they are mad.

I think everyone does this to some extent. A few people more so than others. There is no way to control it though, unless you stop caring completely. I personally couldn't do that. As much as I dislike the human race sometimes, I've always been a generally caring person, it's something I can't get rid of. It's both a gift and a curse in a way.

I'm an empath as well, and find it difficult sometimes, especially with strong emotions such as hate or anger. Unfortunately, as I take on others' emotions, I also end up with easily changeable moods. Therefore, if I'm around someone angry, no matter how happy I may be, I end up angry as well.

I'm still trying to get to the point where I can block anger and hate, but those are the two hardest ones for me.

However, I've only recently discovered that I was an empath, and not just crazy....haha

The only way I have found to control it has been recent and I just try to ignore it. Walk around oblivious to things going on. It sucks

i am definately sensitive to people emotions, more so with people that i care about, but even my boss and coworkers.. they can be laughing and smiling.. but i can feel their inner turmoil.. Its an interesting gift.. so I make it a 'goal' to make them all smile in one way or another

EternalTears, I know what you mean about making people smile. I'm forever trying to get my husband to be in a good mood when he's not......

Of all the people I feel emotions from, his are the strongest (good reason for that, though...haha), and it hurts me so much when he's upset.....I try my hardest to make him smile, laugh, anything...but, he's stubborn and doesn't change moods quickly from angry to happy....

I'm not very good with controlling my emotions myself or shielding or any of that and end up just suffering through it. Have you tried some sort of sedative? either in the form of herbal tea or an over the counter prescription? Believe me a sedative works wonders for me when my empathy gets to be too much and all else fails.

how you deal with being empathic is as personal as empathy is itself.
so deal with it well, others don't.
as this thread illustrates.
..
accept it first, then you can 'deal with it.'

it is a gift and it can be a blessing or a curse depends on the one who has it and how you handle it, I take it as a blessing myself

i find being empathic a gift, sometimes its hard to control it but others its not so hard. it can be a good thing to be able to do, because you can help your friends when they are unable to tell you how they feel.

yes it is a gift that you can get as a child as i have and you can contol it, i like it very much for i can tell when i am need to make someone feel better. not to many people get this gift so feel lucky you do.

the women in my family all consider it a blessing or4 gift. we are all very empatic or sensitive to others and their feelings and emotions. It is scary at times yet we have all learned to control it and that is the major step in being gifted in this way.

Shielding! Thats how you protect yourself from constantly feeling. So you dont become a Doormat, of emotions or a negetivity magnet.

You just have to get used to it,
and learn to ignore it.

basically..........

You have the ability to help people with this power. Use it for the greater good. I, too am sensitive to peoples emotions and thoughts. I just try to help the people that are in need as best as I can. As we all should.

it also helps to take time completely to yourself. "quiet time" i guess. i find sometimes it helps to take some space in a dark quiet room with no distractions where i can just close my eyes and zone out or center/ground my energy and let go of all the "extra" energy. i can relate to what your saying in a way because sometimes i experience "sensory overload"

I beleive meditaton would help you great deal.

I experienced the same and am not sure how to control this but at times I have just blocked it because it can immobilize you if you are not careful.

At times I have felt the pain of others, I think mostly that what I felt is becaust of the nature of my "gift" of being a "healer". Since I am able to "heal others through "laying on of hands" I guess that I can also feel the pain others have at times.

i believe that empath's/sentive beings are
phychic's and have the ability to feel other beings emotions/energy and if it is not controled will drain your own energy...

Empaths@MySilentEcho.com answers many questions about empaths.

Well to be completely honest with you I am an empath myself and there are several ways that I have found to ease it. However I have never truly found a way to control it. I just accept it and move on. But in time you will understand that you were given this gift for a reason. My suggestion to you (take it or leave it) is to help those that are in pain, emotionally or physically. Plus it will also make you feel good for doing good to others.

It's like empathy only more than that... My friends mother is... whenever something's wrong she can tell even when we haven't spoken in weeks.

Shielding is something that can be one yet does not always help.

i have that same thing and i have some control of it. i uses my mind to push it to arm length to keep my own feeling under wrap. it was not easy but can be done.

cx

I merge with my totem/power animal. They can help you a lot.

I merge with my totem/power animal. They can help you a lot.

empathy... i experience it to... is it like friends and famoly...

have you been working on the "shields" hun they really work

yes there are many ways to control this.
but my question is why you would want to.
i consider this a gift.
i feel people's emotions too.
it is wonderful to be able to share these so you may connect with them on a more personal level.

if you think about this and still decide it bothers you i have some tips.
first do not try and block it out completely.
you will lose some of your character.
but try and put yourself in a position to look at their emotions at every angle.
they could being feeling pain for a good reason or bad.
but you must remember that their emotions are their's and that you can not fix them.

oh my

Sometimes blocking when it is someone that you care about is easier said than done. Also blocking can desensitize you. Trying to remember it is their emotions and you can not fix it is not what they want and you make it worse. Especially if they know you can feel it.

I believe some of us are ment to feel it. And we are also ment to help with it if we can. But sometimes we are not able to.

I agree that you should not shield yourself from it for these reasons. I think a better idea for it would be to make objective barriers so that it can not damage you but yet it can get in so that you can acknowledge it is there and deal with it. Even if not to help them! The best way to deal with it is to learn to let it be around you and through you and learn to cope with it and not let it consume you.

That is kinda like a super fast version of what I am thinking about it and it may not all make complete sense......But I hope it does

with me it's usaly emtions that I feel form people, if you need a time out from it sit in a darkend room relax and breath in and out gently. Then in your minds eye see a switch just above your head saying on at one side and off at the other, flick the switch to off. This really helped me I hope it helps you too

That kind of gift it's hard to control. I'm not sure if you can. All I know is that it can be turned off. But you have to be sure that is what you want because it's next to impossible to turn it back on.

Alot of us are meant to feel yet soem of us find it to hard to separate the feelings.

You are feeling the pain of this world because you have a pure heart and a pure soul. There is nothing wrong with your situation. Just, use it to help others.

I agree.....do no trun from it. Use it!

If you feel your energy being zapped don't hesitate to politely excuse yourself from a killing conversation. Move at least twenty feet from the person, outside the range of his or her energy field. “I have to go to the bathroom” is a foolproof line. Most people are oblivious to how their energy impacts others. For years, reluctant to hurt anyone's feelings, I needlessly endured these types of situations and suffered. In a spot, physically removing yourself is a sure quick solution. Build an energy shield around you. When you’re with people you can’t get away from visualize a protective shield of white light surrounding every inch of you. This lets positive energy in, but keeps negative energy out—particularly efficient at family dinners or social events where you’re trapped.
I hope that i have helped you somewhat....Never put yourself down as being “overly sensitive.” Sensitivity is an asset as long as you learn how to protect yourself from negative vibes. Understanding how you react energetically in the world is particularly important if you’re chronically tired and want to build vitality. Knowledge is power. Meeting your energy needs can balance mind, body, and spirit to create a vibrant life.

It is one thing to feel empathy and quite another to have it cause a problem.. It is certainly very human to feel another's pain.. However, sometimes when we are feeling stress or depression we become Hyper-sensitive to other peoples emotions.. ..After all we can only experience another's pain if we ourselves have also experience pain.

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