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Do you believe their is someone made especially for you? A foot for every shoe?

A pheramonal induced partner?

Just a scientific or psychiatric probability that you would wind up together?

Or is it just natural selection? This mate suits me because *_fill in the blank_*.

I was just curious after reading and rating so many profiles, a majority of them couples, believing their bf/gf is THE ONE, and the single one's talking about meeting their damsel in distress or prince charming.

How do you know the person you are with is TRULY the one for you, and not absolute compatibility or just someone you claim at the time for a whim?

the first time I met my first husband. Dont know how I knew or what. But I knew I would end up marrying him and i did five months after we met. was it a premonition? love at first sight? all i know it was like lightning when we met. Soul mates? i think so. But time was never on our side. I was younger than he. by a good ten years. but still one of the best relationships ive ever had. He passed away but left me our daughter, so some good was brought out of it.

So yes I do believe in soulmates. And i think you can have more than one.

i don't like the idea of a soul mate. that rules out a lot of things that could happen. but i do understand in the idea of the "one". that's the person that you are so madly in love with that you can see straight.

My husband and I will have been together 3 yrs. on August 21st. We married seven months after knowing eachother, on February 22,2007. So we've been married a little over 2 yrs. 3 months after being married we got pregnant. And I'm 6 months pregnant now.

We have had our ups and downs, but what serious relationship/marriage doesn't?

Even though we have been through hell and high water, even a short seperation, I could NOT see myself with anybody else or even WANT to be with somebody else.

He's my 'only'. But I don't know about soul mate quite yet.........

The reason why I created this thread is because I'm curious. Even though there has been threads on this before, people/situations change, and we get new members along with new insight.

Also, do you believe someone could actually die of 'brokenheart disease'? I don't mean suicide, but they can't fuction or think, if they lose their soul mate or significant other?

As I am not sure about either... I do know, that when
it comes to "soul mates/the one" people tend to THINK
that "this person" is going to be within a decent mile radius
from them. I believe, that you can't/will ever know... truly,
who you are meant to be with or end up with, if... and only if,
you limit the possibility of his/her whereabouts.

My point, widen your radius... speak to others from around
the world... just to see for yourself, do you pick out of
pure emotions... or out of pure convenience...? You're talking
about what's "suppose" to be a "life's treasured one"...
so why the limits on finding him/her by location... why? You'd never
know for sure, not this way.

Personally, I've dated guys from other states... even another
country, I've moved with them, when we felt it was right for
us, though I am not with any... I'm open to this "soul mate"
in which I seek.


I am a true seeker

I've heard of only one incidence to where one
had died... he didn't want to leave the morgue
to where his wife was... he asked if he could
just stay a while longer... though he was old
as was she... he said "she was my everything
and we've been together for {forgot how may
yrs} most of our lives... I don't have any
reason to stick around.", and when they left
him with her... and came back later, they
found that he had died.

It's beautiful, imagine a love like that.

Yes, I believe in Soulmates. I used to think there was only one out there for every person, but since, I've discovered it's a bit more complex than that.

There are many that will be able to hear another's soul in one's lifetime. Not only for intimate purposes either. One could have soulmates that are meant jus as friends and/or more than one meant to be lovers.

In rare cases, you could meet more than one meant for love during the same time period. But, as is the way of today's Society, most people are afraid to think/explore any deviation from monoghamy. They say to "Love Freely"...but yet 'they' turn their noses at the very thought of actually practicing this venture.

So my question in return, is : are you willing to open your mind and heart (and your current partner as well) to the...idea of loving/having more than one soulmate at the same time?

Bloodmother12208 asks:
Do you believe their is someone made especially for you? A foot for every shoe?
A pheramonal induced partner?
Just a scientific or psychiatric probability that you would wind up together?
Or is it just natural selection? This mate suits me because *_fill in the blank_*.

I reply:
I do believe in soulmates, but I don't believe it's as narrow as just one person for one other person. I believe that we fall in love, truly and deeply but as we age, we grow and change. For some, the relationship will grow and change in ways that drives them apart while others will only grow closer.

As for pheremones: I just don't know enough about them to decide one way or another.

I feel that yes there maybe


But the chances of finding such a person is very hard

i dont think humans were made for just one mate i mean we are animals to and they mate with different females and males all the time. but i guess if you believe enough and really love someone anything is possible

I believe there is at least one and probably several soul mates.

Part of it is phernomal, part personality, part upbringing.

There are people we connect to on many different levels in different ways. I believe it is possible to find those we were close to in pastlives.....as for soulmate in the form of a lover, is not fixed or sets one on a path of dispair should someone we became very close to, die per say. There are many forms and meanings to what a 'soulmate' is. To me, it is people that come into our lives and make it more special and sets it apart from the rest. It is merely....connection or reconnection.

Well relationships haven't really been in my favor, but that doesn't stop me from looking and being on the search because i do believe that special someone is out there..looking and searching for me.

I believe in soul mates. I didnt before I met my husband. We grew up in seperate towns but constantly our lives crossed paths while we were growing up though we never actually met. We had alot of the same experiences growing up. Neither of us had been in a serious relationship longer than a year. We were both searching for something. In fact when we did finally meet I thought he was a cocky show off and immature. I never would have pegged him as one of those love at first sight guys or my soul mate lol. Pfft we even waited about 5 years before we eventually got married. We've been together 11 years now.

As far as some one dying of a broken heart. I also think that's possible.
My paternal grandfather died within a year after my grandmother. My maternal grandmother died on my grandfather's birthday.

I don't however think a younger person would be as likely to die of a broken heart.

i used to think the concept of a soul mate was a joke. I just thought it was about finding someone that shared your interests. In this way, you could have lots of soul mates. well that was before i met my soul mate. all teh loves i thought i had before are nothing. i didn't know what love truly was until i met him. we are so similar and our souls connect in a way where we know when the other is sad or happy without talking to each other. so yes now i believe in a soul mate.

I have met my soul mate. But I think we have more than one. Family, best friend ect.

I always had this instinct..that my other half is out there.
Such a strong urge thats inside me is telling me that
i can't live without my other half,it's like i'm empty and
hallow.
My big brother tells me that every being ever animal
has a true mate.It's just how and when..or if we find them.alot of times...peoples mates die or they are not
boren yet to come and find there other halfs.
My family don't believe in such things,cause they are
all in bad relations.
I still have and urge..not matter the cost to find him.
But,after time..and time again..i feel that he has already
died.
I shall be alone..without my lifemate...forever.
I missed my chance,
and the emptyness sinks in.
Big sister tells me..that people can go crazey,
after a long while without the right mate.
shes says that its most common in vampyres.

What would be the purpose?
If souls were engineered to be matched, or a single soul split into two; what would be the point of working on a relationship? It seams to fly in the face of everything we know about the world.

Occam's Razor says no.

I think that there are souls out there that harmonize well together, but that that is circumstancial and not lasting without work either.

Everyone is your soulmate.

I believe that aliens have souls; or that there is potential for my first soulbond to be male, even though I am hetero. I do not believe in one soulbond... I think it more likely that eventually on a different plane we will be soulbonded with everyone, one or two at a time... and that the likelyhood of soulbonding with more than one person on earth, for me, is nil, but I know a fe people who have soulbonded, lost tehir mate to death, and soulbonded again. I believe in teh potential of polygamy because of this.

Do you believe their is someone made especially for you? A foot for every shoe?
I think that there is one soul, and that the soul is spilt up in to two half's. Sometimes the two half's become come and are joined forever, Other times they join and only darkness fallows. You must believe in your mate with all your heart, that he/she is out there waiting for you, or you'll never find him.



A phenomenal induced partner?
Some times yes, other no.




Just a scientific or psychiatric probability that you would wind up together?
I have thought that if the thing that lead me to meet my mate, had never happen I would never have met him. But I know deep down that we would have meet sooner or later. If you miss your chance to see your mate, the fates will always bring another chance you're way.

soul mates hmmmm...

i think someones out there

Soulmates. yes. I also believe that your soulmate could show at anytime. Possibly while you are wild about some other creature who makes your blood boil. Or while you are married or whatever. I always wondered what would happen if when the soulmate showed up, what happens to the other relationship? This is especially true if you might be in a legally binding relationship. How do you handle that? I am not personally in that problem but it has interested me for many years.

yes i do believe their is someone for everyone..:)

Well I am married my betterhalf and she is my soulmate too. I think we have been union from past lives and have become one from unknown past.

I used to believe in soul mates. I don't anymore. What's the use? I feel connected with people, I look at someone sometimes and feel I have known them forever, but that has happened a lot.
I don't think I have a soul mate.

I'm enjoying the replies so far.

I wonder why there aren't as many men replying?

Yeah, polygamy is another form of relationship. As for my husband and I, we've toyed around with idea, but all we want is eachother.

Do you think some people are to fickle, setting their standards too high, blocking out the person/s that they're meant to be with?

That is human nature to be fickle like that, we all do it once in our lives.



And everyone has someone

yes, but finding them is the hard part.

you shall know it when you meet the person. u will feel it with ur intier beingu shall know there moods likes dislike finishes sentence for one another . u feel down with out them and totally alive with them. it kind of hard to expliane. u just have to eperince it for urself

Personally, i feel that there is at least two or three different "soul mates" for each person. because what if your first "soul mate" dies in a freak accident before you find them, or while you are together??? then that would just straight up not be cool.
I myself am not sure when I will find mine. If i have found him then I am very dense and have not noticed yet. But, Finding the one you love and care about is supposed to be the person who makes you completely whole. therefore the theory of "soul mates" exists.

I feel that yes there maybe

Honestly I always believed in soulmates .. or kindred spirits ... I believe we each have our other halves out there the trick is finding the one ....
I never had much luck in the Love department ... always fell for the wrong one well never fell just lusted after ... ( hey being honest here) so I just figured this lifetime my soulmate wasnt here ...
Then one day someone just blew my mind .. he had me at HEY YOU ... and we've been joined at the hip ever since .. we sense each other ... seem to know when something is wrong with the other .. we finish each others sentences ...there is such a strong connection I no longer doubt my soul mate is here .. he definately is ...
It might take alot of trial and error but it is welll worth the time when u do find them .

Yes I do believe that there is someone made for everyone. I believe that everyone has their special someone out there just waiting to be found.

I also think that fate brings them together. Not a coincidence... If something is meant to happen... It will, no matter what.

I doubt that it will be a natural selection because when you do select I think it tends to have lots of problems.

Well, you know someone is the one for you when you get all of these special feelings...
It doesn't matter what age, date or time of the day it is. It doesn't matter how old you are either.
When you meet "the one" only you will know... No one else can tell you that he or she isn't for you.
Only you will know how you truly feel about that person and you can just hope that the person feels the same way about you too.
Also, if you do think that someone is the one... Don't let someone else (like a friend or family member) change your mind.

bloodmother12208 - lol I really don't believe that someone can die from "Broken Heart Disease" but I do believe that they can die from depression :)

I broken heart often leaves many in a state of depression and if they don't control it it is likely that they can die.

I used to believe in soulmates before I met my bf. Yes, I know that sounds weird, but I honestly don't feel like he could be my "soulmate". I love him very much and would like to be with him for as long as time will allow, but I just don't feel like we were made for each and only one another.

I must say that once upon a time....no, but seriously, I USED to believe in soul mates. That idea quickly vanished when the "love of my life" cheated on me after 15 years....I had known him since I was 10 and we were high school sweethearts. He told me that he loved me, yet he let me down.

I have been with my current beloved for almost 10 years and I don't consider him a soul mate but someone I love and feel differently about than my ex. He is the father of my son, which is a big difference. I have no children with my ex....(Thank you Goddess!)

I want to belelive thier are soul mates out there and that we are meant to meet but who knows really.

I don't adhere to such notion, of "soul" and then "soul-mate", I believe is all about personality, attraction and communication, you can "find" your "soulmate" category in just about everywhere in different time of your life, since when you all get in love you think thats the one at first, and all the blah, but when you broke up with the person is the opposite notion, and then go in the search for the "new soulmate". I believe in finding the person that better fits your persona, interest and the sharing of whatever is that you both share as where the "spark" began. Soulmate is just the romanticized notion of finding the "right" person; but most of you think is one and others contradict/misinterpret the meaning of -soulmate- by saying: "we could have: 2, 3 soulmates ?".

I think your soul mate can be anyone. I no my soul mate is my best friend, your soul mate could be a complete stranger someone that you have walked by, sat next to on the bus or talked to in passing at the bank or in a bar ,if you are lucky you will know ur soul mate but 90% of us will only meet them for a brief second when you do you will know you will feel an instant connection to this person. I no that the love of my life is not my soul mate. Xx+xX

It depends on what you truly believe...finding the "one" can be simple...or fate or destiny.A "soul mate" can be your best friend(male/female) or a neighbor...or someone out of the blue.If you really believe in soul mates...then by means search for them.

well when my wife with me no matter i do not think of her. but when she goes at her perent's home for staying few days, I become sick in absence of her coz her thoughts attract me boldly that I just want her and without her i will die...

to me there is difference between soul mate as a mate for love and soul mate as a mate in spiritual ways and a mate or a friend from past life as a soul mate.

I have never found my lover's soul mate, I did hwoever found my spiritual soul mate, I also found my friend soul mate, were together as protecting one another in past lives. And found each other today, in different country across the ocean.

I beleive that in order to be sure the one you are with is your love soul mate, it is not just a gut feeling, it goes deeper, its like you know the person, all of him or her,you can feel when they are ill or sad or happy,even if you are milles apart and have no way of comunicating. You can feel it in your bone, lietterally having the urge to go back to know why you feel that emotion.

I do not think we can find our love soul mate when we are still in puberty or just coming out of it. Since the only thing running is the hormons. You need to be able to have a cold head then you will find your soul mate, it wont be love, it will be agapê love, (its a hebrew term) a love that is unselfish, making you one with the other and making that each is willing to step aside to let the other be happy, but never having to do it, since both are one together and would be half without the other.

my 2 cents

I do believe that there is more than one person that can be your soul mate. Was just thinking about what if you found two at the same time. Just wondering if a person could handle two soul mates at the same time. I would think that eventually one would suffer.

There are differing opinions as to what a soul mate may be. One is just a person in harmony with another in their spiritual path and to others it is someone of the opposite sex that is their perfect mate and yet others it is anyone that seems to be a perfect fit for them.

I don't know if this exists. I personally have never experienced this but when I thought of it in the romantic way it seems to wear off so I think it's not really a soul mate but the euphoria most get in new love that wears off after a couple of years. The pheramone connection doesn't last for long periods of time. I would like to think there is that special someone but I think essential if this is true many of us don't meet them.

I used to think that there was "The One" out there, but now I am not so sure. I don't know what to believe in anymore.

I have a problem with the Soul mates thing , I do think there is a special someone for everyone and when you find that person it will be magical and it might seen like they are the other part of your soul but I don't really think it happens , as the old saying goes

To be honest, I do believe in soulmates. To me, there is always someone who is compatible with you, be it one person or many, your soul mate is the one you can relate to, most, and even see yourself spending all lives with in some way, shape or form.

I've been in a relationship for the past year and a half, but I knew the guy for a year before we got together. We're both big jokers, and extremely random, so it works. He loves comic books of all types, and I'm a comic artist. To be honest, I was shocked that I hadn't found him sooner, and I can no longer imagine my life without him in it, even if it's just a small part.

Let's see.

What if you met your "love soul mate", knew it was them and only them? But even if you weren't shallow, they didn't phsyically or personality wise attract you, but turned you off? How would you go about that or would you ignore your feelings and scream in your head, "uh.....no friggin' way"?

Or what if you were in the above person's position, but were totally entranced and knew they were your soulmate, but wanted nothing to do with you like that or at all?

I never thought of my husband as being a soulmate.
We did not have much in common, except we do love each other....and somehow we balance each other out.

Many do believe in soulmates....that to me is one word of perference to the one they love.

I don't believe in the entire concept myself.

I don't think there is someone out there that is made for each and every other person. I believe that certain people may find someone that fits their personality to a T, but I do not think that everyone has one.

I believe my wife DAG and I are soul mates.

We were definatly "meant for each other". We hit it off immediatly when we met. We only had 3 months between meeting and moving in together. Less than a year after meeting we were married and we will be married for 20 years in October.

For the most part we compliment each other, she is very outgoing and I am quite reserved. She will try anything on a whim, I need tons of convincing. She is emotional and passionate, I am logical and reserved. She pulls me up into the lofty air and I keep her anchored to earth.

I couldn't imagine being with anyone else...I sure hope she feels the same!

Maybe we are 'simply compatable' and just one of many we would be able to exist and thrive with. But I know I never felt complete until I met Gina. To me, that makes her my 'Soul Mate'

Well one soul met me in my exercise and it taught me the involvement level in meditation. this is an asset to me and i treat that soul my spiritual soul mate.

yes i do believe in soul mates

I have found mine :D actually we ment on here shortly after i joined *smiles* we will be getting married soon :D

I don't belive there is a single 'perfect' person out there for me. I think theres levels of compatibility and if your lucky you meet someone who fits into your life seamlessly and compliments your existance as you do his(or hers), but no I don't belive it, the idea of a soul mate just seems outlandish to me. A romantic fairytale but nothing more.

I dream of a man I have NEVER met, so I haven't a clue if he is a soul mate...dead, departed re-incarnated ex...or just a ghost who got attached when I was a child.

However, I DO know that each time I meet a man I think "I will end up leaving him", so perhaps there will come a time when I also say "He is it for me..."

I believe in soul mates.

Mainly because my parents are soul mates. they have been together for 33 years, and are still happily married, they celebrated 28 years of marrige in April.

My dad was on a photography holiday in the mid west of America, and my mom was at home here in England, but she knew as soon as my dad was having an argument with someone. She knows when he is hurt. And when my mom had to have surgery to remove her gall bladder in May, he knew she was fine, even though the surgery took 3 hours instead of 45 minutes, because he could still feel her heart beat with his. (his words, lol)

But I also believe that we can have friends who are soul mates, aswell as lovers.

I have friends I have met in the strangest of circumstances that I am so close too. And we stay by each other through everything.

Well here is one thing I have noticed far to well. Whenever I'm with someone they seem to have this energy that they wanna go away. They usually don't tell me why. And when I confront them as to why are relationship has been strained or stressful they don't wanna say anything.
And when I feel I might have found someone with a compatible energy/thoughts they never seem to want me.
I don't aim too high. I even told one of my friends, I never ask for "the knight in shinning armor" I ask for a lil less.
I like nerds/geeks, I like people that can fix things like cars/tech/buildings whatever....IDC, I like just simple open minded fun people. But they don't exist. Every one I end up meeting that I super like, I'm not good enough. So I'm done looking for a "soul mate" that I used to believe in.
After all, if he exist, I don't think he'd like me. I'm not good enough.

Sorry, I hate it when people down talk themselves. One of my pet peeves.

"And Morgan says, maybe love won't let you down
All of your failures are training grounds
And just as your back's turned you'll be surprised she says
As your solitude subsides"

-absence of god lyrics by Rilo Kiley

i tried finding "the one" for me and in doing so i have made great friends and a beautiful daughter which i will always cherish every moment we have. I still have some feelings their for her father but it just did not work out. so yes i feel at some point of time i am done with love but on the other hand i feel that some where i will find a match whether it be because of similarities or just a connection we feel. I just got to take the first step in order to find him.

I believe I've taken steps. I have moved, traveled some. I have slowed down recently more then when I was younger. I now travel maybe once a year into a new area. Sometimes I stay a lil longer. Like back in WA I stayed for almost two years. then moved to MN then back to WA and now back to MN.
I have been cautious about a someone to have companionship with.
I have had dreams before I left WA state about a certain person that keeps popping up. He is about my height, wears a 34/36 pants, in my dreams I keep seeing grey cats, he either saves them or he gives them to me. He has light brown hair and either green or blue eyes. He has soft skin. Other then that I don't know much about him. But I know his energy. And I keep seeing him. Is he real? I don't know. But if he is, I'm sure he'll pop up somewhere. Is he my soul mate? I don't know. But I know he will be my best friend.

When I first laid my eyes on my husband, I was on a tour at Guthrie Job Corps.

We were in the culinary building, in the front where some students do book work, and I looked in the back, which was the classes kitchen, before I went I decided on Culinary Arts, but when I looked in the kitchen me and husband locked eyes for a brief second.

My grandmother was with me and I told her, "Grandma, I'm going to be with him. He's going to be mine."

When I arrived there, I hoped he was still there and hadn't left, even though I could FEEL he didn't. It was like a month after the tour when I got there.

He was a server at our 'newbie banquet'. He bet his friend, he could get in my pants within a week.

(We dated 7 months, the weekend before we got married, is when we had sex, I made him wait 7 months to prove a point,lol)

But anyways I was dating this guy who was overbearing, he tried to control me, he made me mad at dinner,I left the cafeteria, and I sat under what I claimed to be MY tree.

An hour later Sam (my husband), came and found me to see if I was okay, he sat next to me under the tree, and said I deserved better.

I asked him if he was the 'better' that I was deserving of, he laughed, the next day I asked him out, and we've been together ever since.

I do believe that everyone has a potential soul mate out there in the world, somewhere...finding him/her could be hard though. i think that when we stop looking, they will come...
And like others have said here - you will know him/her when you meet them.

What's bad is when you end up with someone who more or less gnaws at your soul and sucks the life out of you.

they are out there but if you look you will miss them and continuously have some bad relationships

well I met someone recently. But I don't know. I have a really good feeling about him. he claims he has a girlfriend now. So I guess maybe my feeling is wrong. So I guess I'm paying attention elsewhere. I'm not searching, I'm keeping my eyes open to see what comes at me. But still, this one guy...he keeps sort of just popping in my mind. What's weird is we just met. And yet I still have a really really good feeling about him. It's driving me nuts. But I don't wanna say it's anything special. We'll just be friends for now. All I'm looking for right now in guys is mostly friendship. I need new friends in the area. I'm even making female friends which is rare to be honest. but still...something about this one person...I don't know what it is.

don't say you want me

don't say you need me

don't say you love me

its understood

don't say your'e happy

out there without me

I know you can't be

cuz it's no good....



"I've had two ones in my past and the last one was five years ago..... I feel like I'm dying..... like any love is life and that I'm just running out of life....."

here's something I generally have, even a poem i wrote. I believe it's in my journal somewhere from a while back.

How many hearts must I break to find the one I'm afraid of break?

I've broken hearts by dumping guys or they get mad at me because I dump them first knowing they are gonna dump me(which has happened a few times and I find out they are planning to dump me). Well I've broken the hearts of the more honest ones by not having enough in common with them or not enough chemistry or connection. And those are some biggies for me.
But yet this one guy that keeps popping up even though I just met him, the good feeling guy..yeah that one.
he's got a gf but yet when him and I talk and he talks about her it's almost like she's me. When yet she isn't me. I'm so confused. this is why I'm basicly given up on the soul mates thing. I can never seem to understand when a guy really wants me. he seems to want me but seems to be afraid to want me maybe?

~Zihauna~

Well sometimes its the last place you would think that you meet that person.... Mine knows who he is, as does any one else that knows me. Its when you stop looking that things just fall into place sometimes.

there is no shut thing as one
i know

No, I do not believe in soul mates. I believe any relationship can work as long as both put forth 100% effort.

yes, i do believe in soul mates

So what happens if someone you barely met is on your mind all day and night no matter how hard you try to get them out?
and you are confused by it?

Emo- People have died from a broken heart, jonny and june is one of them, also all those older married people once one dies 90% of the time the other fallows.

Well, I do believe in this sort of things... because after Eons of searching for my long lost half, I've finally been reunited with my other half, my wife.
I don't look at it as two separate entities that are a perfect match... I look at it as two halves of the same entity that was born with the making of the Universe... which are looking to be reunited in order to achieve a higher purpose.

I was hesitant to answer as I have recently had a bout with someone over polygamy, but I will.

yes there are soulmates, kindred spirits, heartsease,
who make us feel complete.
we are not always fortunate enough to meet;
though we are there.
and sometimes we search long and long,
before coming across one.
But I say that doesnt mean we cannot love anyway.
In my life, I have met three who matched me
almost perfectly; though not at the same time.
I am fortunate that I am capable of being poly,
because it allows me more of an opportunity
to meet these individuals.
There are two now who have my heart, my love,
my soul, and match me perfectly;
more so then I could have believed.
rainey and rayvin have my eternal love.

So many bad things can happen with that. even in Wicca ways marriage and love Its be tween Two people that love one another. I used to think Two held my heart, and they did but they turned on one another. Witch women are more inclined to do so, being us very jealous.
You may say it feels right now, but what happens when your heart grows more for another? And trust me love is like that, what happens to the other? Do you cast them aside like a dog? Tell them "Well it was fun but yea you need to leave now"
I know I do not sound any better then those bible humping people I strive to not be like. But love should be between two TWO people that love one another. In my eyes only the shallow need more then one person to love like that.

there might be someone for everyone or its just that you decide to settle but what ever it is just make sure your happy. i personaly have yet to find that ONE but you know what? i will be having fun till that day then i will be absolutly happy. or i could just be an idiot thinking that there is only ONE person for me but when you look at nature do other species have life partners? in some there are but over all the majority of animals dont they just procreat to propel the species and thats what i think we should be doing. but thats just coming from a guy who has been burned way too many times.lol. alright well thats about it so have fun and stay safe to all.

Gawl

Airianna - Oh, I never knew that. I always thought that they died from depression.

Depression is one of the reason they do go, they just do not want to live anymore and wish to be with there loved one. the wish for there life to end to become one of the dead and just end there pain.

Yea that's true because after feeling like you've been with that person for so long... He or she is your everything and when they go... You're nothing. :(

I wish I knew that feeling...that someone was my everything.

I belive there is and i belive it could be a past lover from a past life

VelvetPassion -

You have a point there. That could explain why we get that feeling that we know that significant other, ie soul mate, so well!

I think that we just know because we feel so comfortable around that person, and it doesn't feel awkward at all. I think that someone's soul mate is the person that they feel truly themselves around. They don't have to hide any part of them, and they know that they are going to be accepted fully, and not just partially.

It took a bad marriage to make me see that my ex-husband wasn't my soul mate. But the guy that I am with now, I really think could be. But I am going to see how it turns out.

Zihauna

RE: to your first post

I was going to say the strain is probably coming from YOU, as they can tell you are uncomfortable, but as I kept reading I saw the problem ran much deeper than that. Girl, you are trying too hard. No one needs a man that bad...Breathe in, relax, and cool it...Married and taken boys are not play-pretties. That is a bad way to start a relationship. If they cheat on them; they will cheat on you...In answer to the whole 'I can't stop thinking of him' bit, that is simple lust. Buy you a latex boyfriend (less hassle, diseases, & pregnancy).

The more I think about it the more I realize it is a dream,mist in the morning,something that fades away the closer you get,I do not believe it is possible to have a connection with someone that deep.

That is my opinion.

I believe in soul mates. But I don't believe that your soul mate is necessarily your lover or future partner. I think your soul mate can be anyone. A sibling, a true life long friend that sticks with you no matter what, a parent, a family member, anyone that is close to you that you develop that soul connection with.

Ok I normally would not say this , but I am a witch and pagan and must disagree with Adrianna , as I know that even though my husband and I love each other very much because of certain health problems which I hate I have allowed my husband to have a "friend" that I have approved of and made very clear to that that is all it is , so you can have two separate people in your life as long as there are limitations to what goes and what doesn't , to say that you are in love with two people just mean you truly love neither one.

Don't make the mistake of taking your spouse for the soul-mate... that might be a mistake... but who says that you have to meet your soul-mate in this life?
Another thing, considering polygamy or "affairs"... that is not the proper way to go. Because let's say that you marry someone and after years and years of building a family you happen to "fall in love" with someone else... How do you know that is truly your soul-mate? What gives you the right, then, to ruin everything you've built until then and hurt the one that agreed to start a family with you because she/he cared about you? Can you be that selfish and ignorant to pursue a so-called dream or fantasy?
Because when you find your soul-mate, you KNOW is your soul-mate... otherwise is just pheromones and bad judgment...

good point.

Soul mates i think do exist but i also think that we dont all find our true soul mate.. Some of us find someone close.

I think I just need companionship. I am truly most happy when I have a good companion.

i think a soul mate is a different thing than is being examined.
this is only my thought, but soul mates are just souls that are attached to your own. it might be one, or might be many. some might love you, some may hate...both being similar emotions at times.

we pass through our many lives with a number others that are close to us...that our souls just refuse to release. i know in my heart i have more than a single soul mate.

Pax Yall
~W~

I believe that a soul is ripped in two and put into different people when it is born. Does that mean that we are meant to be with that person as in a relationship, no. You can love someone and believe they are your soulmate and only be the best of friends.

My soulmate died a long time ago when we were just kids. We were the best of friends and even though we had our rough moments no matter what we came back together. I do miss him like crazy and yes he is on my mind almost everyday, but no matter what I know is he still part of me and for that he will always be with me.

Yes I do believe in soulmates.


Do you think some people are to fickle, setting their standards too high, blocking out the person/s that they're meant to be with?

And I wanted to answer this question ....

I think some people set impossible standards for what they might want so they can continue to search for "the one" and when that "one" never appears then they settle for someone that isn't exactly what they want.

Yes, I believe n soul mates. But unlike many here, I believe you get only one. The one person in the whole world who is the other half of yourself, who completes you at the deepest level.

Jay, I respect your opinion, but I do have to disagree with you.

I have found two people that I have known from past lives and that is weird enough. And I do beleive in soulmates, and I do beleive that one of them is, I just haven't done anything with them because I know that I will end up hurt from them.

RLS22~

RLS22~

I know the feeling, I to have lost someone that was my mate. It hurt, it hurt so much I tried many times to kill myself, fill the void with something anything. Men. Women, drugs, and trying to take my won life.

But to tell the truth I have found my soul mate again. Nate, he is the reason I wake up, the reason I breath i do stupid shit and mess up because of him. The reasoning behind this are:
1. Chris was my mate, but only part of it.
2. Nate said around the time Chris died be came someone new.
3. I've asked around and even asked my Indian doctor, and Nate soul has been put together, like he lived with out one half.


Sometimes when you first meet your soul mate, its only part of him. And when that one dies you find the other full half. But there are time when the two half's do not become one,and trust me its very very messy.



Lady snow~
I'm sorry to hear about the health problems I will pray to the Mother for you. But I do not think I could ever let My mate have a "Friend" Even like the way you say it is. It would break me. Maybe its just for the fact I'm old school on love and do not believe in separating, and that when you love someone its for the rest of your life, and sometimes more. I hope and pray things get better for you and bones.

I beleive that most do have soul mates.I also know that for some of us we will never find them.

Sometimes your soul mate is in another state or even country. And some of us just can't get there. So that does make sense.

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