To all those who:
a) Live the vampyre lifestyle AND OR
b) Consider yourself to be sanguinarian and or psychic vampire
Do your family and friends accept you for what you are? My family would disown me if they knew what I was. It will remain a mystery, generally speaking until I am assured that I have secured a decent livelihood for myself, as I'm a college student right now who is about to enter his last year of studies.
They know that I am really into vampires, just that they don't know how far or why :p
I identify as both psychic and sanguinarian, though I am also into the lifestyle as well. The former two I keep rather private because of how most people would think of me. The latter, tends to show itself at local 'goth' events (or at least more prominently) because that's the style I tend to dress in.
What are your experiences?
i suppose i could sum up my post with a ditto, but how boring would that be?
i am deep in the closet as to my vampiric nature. like you, they know i am very interested in vampires but i do say "im a vampire" unless i am smiling and making all around me think im making a joke.
and also when i "lifestyle" its on the far too rare occasion when i hit the goth clubs.
were i to "come out" i really do think it would be a very very bad scene for me. im one of those "pillars of the community" types, and until last year i taught physics at a local high school. someday i may choose to go back to that profession, so i dont care to burn my bridges.
so there... lol
~W~
Yeah, teaching high school and admitting you're a vampire isn't exactly *conducive* to your professional survival lol
i have no family that i know of..........i was found by a psi vampyre. she raised me....she past away 10 years ago...she accepted me but others don't.........i on have friends on VR
There are a very, very small number of people who know how far I'm going with this but they're all a bit on the freaky side themselves so it's a judgment free group. I think this is very much a case of finding and sticking to like-minded people (hence VR!).
Something I've been mulling over, regarding this very question though, is would it (and I can't define "it" very well right now) be the same if we weren't in the shadows? Is a willingness or preference for living in the darkness a pre-requisite?
Hope I'm making sense and sorry if this is straying from your original question Vahdek.
i think the darkness here is entirely metaphorical. this "darkness" is something within us.
~W~
My mother knows I'm vampiric, or at least in the "life-style", she thinks I'm just going through a phase, but she accepts it... Though her and my father constantly tell me it's not real and pretty much all of VR are low lifes, but hey, they're parents, what are ya gonna do? It doesn't stop me from being me, and one day down the road they may finally accept the fact that I am being serious.
What I think you're saying, Justin is that you are asking if things would be any different for us if we were more mainstream with ourselves?
I think that we'd still have the same haters, but whatever they might throw at us might in some cases, be grounds for a hate crime or at least the beginnings of one.
We would be considered a minority, like people who are and identify as transgendered. I hope I haven't stepped on too many toes with that statement; all I'm saying is that we would most likely be on the road to be able to walk without fear or prejudice, though it would be a slow process.
Right and I guess what I'm asking (of myself as well as others) is, 'Do I really WANT to be out and open?' I'm not so sure I do.
I think a percentage of what is referred to as " haters" are people who have questions that are left unanswered. If one comes out, is it not reasonable to expect inquiry? Is it not reasonable that if a person ask questions, and gets grief in return that they will generally disregard the claimant as arrogant?
I personally have seen people who identify as vampire "hate" on others who identify as such.
My younger biological brother, fraternity brother and my fiance knows. No one else. My mom is as closed minded as they come. Anything that isnt purely christian is demonic in nature to her... She thought the movie The Spirit was about demons... smh...
I am probably never going to tell my family, those who wouldn't think I was in it for the attention would think i am crazy.
right now I am thinking of the best way to tall my best friend
My family and friends know that I have an interest in vampires, and in the supernatural in general.
They don't need to know the inner workings of my mind on the subject(s).
Sometimes things are better left unsaid.
When it comes to family.
As for friends you know by their interest in vampires
how they may react.
My friends, family, and parents and such all agree with me when I call it lolworthy and utter insanity.
I just know that they wouldn't accept this and thats all right for them I just won't tell them
havent told any one in my biological family, a few close friends know.
its one of those things where the people you tell will either accept you, think you are crazy, going through a phase, or just want attention, It's not something that people understand as being "real"
Growing up in the Bible belt of Central Georgia, being a vampire wasn't even a consideration. Just expressing interest and reading about them was enough to get you looked at askance...lol
Due to the time period I grew up, no one would have said this and if they did, they would be in therapy. I don't consider myself sang or psi. I hate those tags and think they are misleading. Yes some have the urge to drink blood but they are in the minority but seem to be the most outspoken about this sort of thing. I don't care what anyone believes about feeding, because it is a personal thing and what can one say except I do this or I do that and get asked why and prove it. It is just how it is. For me when you say psi/psy it is psychic energy and not necessarily energy from the auric field or anywhere else from others. There is energy everywhere. Some do better with energy from nature. It is a very difficult thing to describe and I think due to metabolism and frequency. Food is essentially energy which is calibrated by calories which are nothing more than energy units.
I don't follow the 'scene' because those are the young people and I have no interest in it and never have and goth, my children had friends in that. I like black but I wear no special garb, think fangs come from fiction and the list goes on but like anyone else, I cannot decide what is true, right or anything else for another individual. Each person has their own perspective and path to follow. Decade makes a big difference in how you perceive all of this. Some of my family know, some of my friends know but to be perfectly honest it is something you can't tell just anyone unless you want a lot of grief or no job and possibly no friends. If it is a Christian person they will think one of two things, you are loony or evil. So many are these days that it isn't in everyone's best interest to tell all. The Gothic movement is something entirely different and so is the fetish but they tend to mesh together in these days, before the 70s you wouldn't hear anyone talking on it.
My family sort of humors me and accepts it because my characteristics fit with what the "community" usually describes and not the media or those with websites influenced by role playing games. I didn't come here looking for information because I knew there were hundreds of people here for fiction and folklore and not aware of the community and would get the third degree. It is like asking someone why they have a faith or like a certain food. Sometimes the answers aren't there, it is something one just knows for a very long time. What can I say. As far as a lifestyle I consider that a more modern idea of those interested in the more fictional, theatrical side of things...there is room for all views. This is a very personal experience but vampires are a drop in the bucket for what alternative things people do believe.
Being Psi is something thats part of me and its something that people will have to accept or not accept. That said...
I know that some of my family would completely disown me while others may accept me. Right now most of my family know that I am very into the supernatural and Vampires. They do not know how deep it goes and that is how i would like it to stay with most of the family that lives in the same town as me. Living in the area of Florida that I am in there are many Christians and some would think me to have gone mad or whatever they end up thinking.
The few people that do know are poeple that I trust and understand. The ones i'll never tell i will never tell due to knowing that they will never understand or begin to comprehend.
People may judge based on various factors but there are things that people will and will not understand or comprehend. When t
Personally I don't feel that having such abilities makes one a "dark person". It's simply abliities that a person has. It's only "dark" because society, and depending on where you live, and socieities acceptance of things, determines what is and isn't dark. You see my point?
Having said abilities could actually contribute to something good and not realizing it. Then it wouldn't be dark at all. Does it really matter if our families understand those things? Is it possible that other family members share something similar and just hasn't talked openly about it?
From what i have seen, my family would never understand my viewpoints, my thoughts or feelings whenever it comes to certain things. A few may be a little more open-minded but the rest, no.
If they ever really wanted to sit with me and have a little chat about stuff, that's fine. If they asked nicely and was curious about something, more than likely I would share with them but I honestly don't see that happening anytime soon. lol
I would have to say that my family despises it. they seem to think I am a nutcase and I have mental issues as does everyone else. I only have two friends who really truly except me for it and actually understand the meaning and significance of being a vampyre.
the only time i would even consider telling my family is after i move out and get on with my life
Unseen,
I think you may be best suited to answer this question.
Why not bring of the subject third person/ as in "Curious, what are your thoughts on those who identify as vampires?"
That's the typical reaction from most people Unseen. My husband and I even had a little chat about it not too long ago and his response is, "There's no such thing as vampires." He even goes into describing them movie wise, and i broke in saying that I wasn't talking about the movie kind. lol And even though I explained more about it, he still doesn't believe me whenever I told him about the psychic encounters I been having since I was little. Even tho, he himself saw exactly what i did in a dream, he still tries to rationalize everything, which isn't a bad thing. It just shows that some people aren't ready to handle information and yes, you will be questioned about things. I'm almost curious if vampire is an appropriate word to use because most will always fall back on the movie types. We can always call Sangs and Psys, "The Pranic Deficient". :P
Not too much. Is my life and if they say anything, that is where the: MYOB fit. At work, every body knows and they always joke around, saying, keep Markus away from the refrigerator with the blood. Cool!!!
markus,
Thank you, you relate with your answer. To often it seems people expect others to respond with adulation, and emphasis.
Someone above mentions another key element, explaining in summary what they define as vampire, and yes Pranic deficient would be better suited for breaching the topic.
My family knows and are very supportive, as for work and business, im slowly coming out.. have to be careful here in Texas, its very very religious.
My mom says i am going to hell. But my other family members except me for who i am. My online friends think its awesome but my middle school friends think i am crazy.
Your family should accept you for who you are and love you unconditionally.
My family accept my little qwerks and all encourage my creativity.
Blood really is thicker than water
I don't claim to be vampiric, nor do I practice said lifestyle. Rather than defining myself by a collective subculture, I prefer to define myself by knowledge and actions, as the effects tend to be much more precise.
As for my family, while they all pretty much follow a christian based faith, I do not. Thankfully, my family never tried to cram religion down my throat, and I return the favor as well. When they, or anyone else have asked what my religious or spiritual belief is, I find it best to ask the question that allows them to decide whether they're interested in a system based on what most would consider to be heresy, regardless of what religion they're part of.
The question I ask is always, "Are you comfortable with yourself?"
Haha, I like that idbeholda. In some other thread, also related to religious/spiritual beliefs, someone suggested something similar. When he's asked about his, he responds with, "Why do you ask?"
First of all, thanks to everyone who keeps this thread going, I appreciate the responses :)
Second of all, I am comfortable with myself, though my family probably won't see it my way.
Best to fit in and say very little, it rarely works out.
My family knows all...they have learned to except me a long time ago... :D
I don't think I would be the open-minded soul I am today if my family hadn't accepted me on the "gothic" side of things.
The vampiric side, well they see that as more of a novelty in me to be made fun of or teased for; but they never mean any harm by it and I know I could go to them if I needed any form of help or to talk about things like that.
Obviously they don't know quite how deep the rabbit-hole goes heh heh, and I doubt they will ever know by my choice.
As far as my friends go, I'm fairly sure that they all have their own views on vampirism themselves so mine would make little difference.
That said though I have had a fair few debates and discussions with some of my friends about this topic and all of them have come up with different responses.
Nearly all of my friends are of the gothic/sub-culture persuasion, so obviously none of them bat an eyelid toward my physical appearance.
In my personal experience, I find it is best to keep FRIENDS and FAMILY very seperate indeed; it means you can get help and support from one, while keeping it quiet to the other.
Just makes things easier for me in the long run :)
I can say only about five people know about me being a vampire. only one has seen me actually bite sumone and their blood and it scared the shyt out of her. i have thought of biting her just to drink her blood but i havent cuz she hasnt said anything to anybody about it. i told her she wud be next if i heard anything about it in school. the four others have seen me drink blood out of a goblet but not out of the persons body. these five person are my closest friends and they kno they cud be next if any word bout my blood thirst come out im coming after them. me being a vampire keeps my friends who kno in check and thats how i want it and like it.
only two of my friends know, and none of my family.
My one friend was not surprised at all... and then told me he thought the same of himself.
My other friend found it interesting but also was not surprised
i tend to ease my friends into it, by the time ive actually spoken or admitted to it, they already know.
My friends seem to understand my family on the other hand wants nothing to do with me they say i am going to hell all they time and never give me a chance to even explian about this site..
My parents will never know..only people close to me know and those hopefully accept me for who i am.
The OSV doesn't condone telling parents, but I told my mother. I explained to her what it was and the abilities that I had and she said, and I quote, "Okay."
Also wanted to add.. my mother is very accepting of who I am. But telling her that I was a PEV was harder than telling her I was bi-sexual. The funny thing is, she seemed more accepting of my Vampyrism than my sexuality.
yeah idk why sexuality would be more taboo than admitting youre a vampire..maybe people just dont believe us
Well for me its like this....
I live the vampire lifestyle and beyond. Since I have been living in the world on my own since I was 12 in the streets, I really don't care what my very religious mother thinks. My dad would love me regardless but the rest of my family (except my nine brothers, who accepts me) I could careless what they think of me because I am the black sheep of the family. I follow my own drum beat whether its off sometimes and not in perfect harmony but in all its my beat. I think humans put too much into the Vampire image and really don't think or have knowledge of what it really is.
I am ME! I wouldn't change for no one and as long as my 4 teens accept me and think I am cool but geeky thats all that matters to me. They are my creation and I am their maker. Oh! One more thing as long as I have Cairo by my side, my dog loves me too. So, I feel loved unconditionally enough to not care what anyone else thinks.
well my family already calls me the "FREAK" and all they know is that I have an interest in anything dark.... My mother constantly says... honestly at YOUR age??? Like it is a phase ( I am 46) So I cannot believe that any of them would accept it if I told them I was psi.... it would be bad. My best friend & my son know... it's all good with them
I haven't told either of my parents. I had enough problems trying to tell my mum that the reason I'm Pagan is not because of my dad's influence (I grew up in the bush with no religion and a set of VERY hippy parents - minus the dope smoking).
And trying to tell people that I am "pranic deficient" (thanks for that term btw) is just as hard, though the significant other seems fine with it.
My question is this....
Do you really have to tell your parents and is to be rebelious, shock them or to get attention from them?
What is your motive?
You don't have to answer that here just something you may want to think about and think of your pros and cons.
my family does not know since this is not something they need to know about as we are not close and have disowned most members but my son
as for my son he does know that I drink blood sometimes and love the myths folklore movies books etc but as I have kept this and another part of my lifestyle away from him til he reached the age of 16 he is ok with it the same as I have no problem with the way he is living his life now at the age of 20 21 on the 25th of Sept
as for my real true friends they know that I have a love for vampires and that is fine with them same as my religion which is sorry don't believe in what the bible is teaching us and 2 of them are members of their church 1 a deacon and the other a ordained minister
I just remember when i told my mom I was bisexual.
I kind of used my cousin's wedding to another man as a shoe-in, but it was still difficult.
She was fine with it, though.
But then I told both my parents how I wasnt going to go to church at all anymore, and they flipped out on me... I am almost afraid to tell them what my true beliefs are
When I told my parents they freak out. They didnt want to believe. Right now they know, Im guessing theyre trying to ignore my true nature. Even though theyre totally against vampires, they really seem to accept me (at the moment). And yes my whole family is deep in religious beliefs, it was very hard to tell them without having too much drama.... Its a hard thing to tell anyone just because the way they will react..
If I told anyone they all would just laugh, and say I am not right in the head. No one would support me. Its better left unsaid. Every one around me knows that I am interested in vampires, they just don't know that I am one!
I tried to hide but some of my friends and family members hate this idea of vampire...
First of all they do no believe that it's real,the most common response was they are mentally sick people who perceive themselves as vampires..there were more myths like they are bad and cruel..they are fakes and posers..
Huh! now I'm sick and tired of this people generally make fun of me when I say I belong here..
So its like making people understand who never can and never will..waste of time and energy...
So finally I do not take opinions...I feel better this way...
alrighty, i may not be a vampire but i have a question on the subject all the same.
Why would anyone accept a vampire any moreso than a cannibal?
You eat the stuff that only comes from them.
Im an orphan....only family I have is on here......they approve....lol
FateUnseen. Even if a vampire does not drink blood they still take in energy right?
Human energy i believe?
if not blood or energy, if they don't leech anything from other humans, can they be called a vampire?
In which case my question still stands.
Everyone gets to choses whether or not to tell their family and friends. So whatever works for you is great :), in my opinion don't denied who and what you are, and screw anyone who says otherwise...
you just have to be able to gauge whether or not the people you tell will except you or not.
I am starting to suspect the only proper way to Come out of the closet, is if your are willing, and able to respond knowingly to general inquiries.
Otherwise, if the intent is not to educate, then prey tell, What is the reason for coming out?
I read post here that are nothing but posturing, and a few that are obviously worded by role player characters. Thats all fine by me though. It is just so amusing to watch Sincere "Vampires" feel so supported by such theatrics.
Good ol Dab.
Yet socoiety deems those not in a trend do not fit in the walls of society. I tell people my fascination with vampires I am not ashamed of it. And yes they look at me like a freak yet I am me and like and do what I feel. I look at others and their quarks and just laugh at myself for they call me strange.
I am engaged to a vampire but my parents would not understand that they would think satanist or think im crazy.Myself Im a werecat and could never let them know about it or they would put me in a psch ward .My friends are all vampires and feral creatures or Dragons so they understand and except me for who I am and date .
I agree with my girl Mysticwinds...some things are better left unsaid. My family thinks anything to do with darkness, gothic, or vampires...monsters ....is all related to the devil. So yeah. My family knows I am into vampires and some of the darker things and paranormal stuff but that is it. Just that alone has made up their minds about me. Oh well their loss.
i am the vampur joshoshinell, i fed on mein mutter, after that evurything was oookay in my family.
The normies had to come out to usssss, and i ated themmmm!
...some people do use the title FAR too loosely.
VampYre is someone that does need a different, more powerful energy source than just regular food to survive and not become sick.
They also may have different specific talents, that vary depending on the indivual
well first off lets my whole family would tell me im stupid for even thinking it but i know my mom would just laugh at me and tell me if thats what i think than ok goodfor me but i can say my girlfriend know about it and she doesnt care she calls me her little vampire she knows just how dark i really get and i love her for that
the one guy who says little. generaly sullen. will probably be acused of being vampiric in the goth comunity. when your asked, and you say yes. well, you probably will be one no longer.
Actually, Everybody says the same thing, that vampires are a myth so either prove it or go see a doctor. If you did prove it they would get really, really, really scared; Watching years of education, belief systems, indoctrination, nurture and nature. All that they thought they knew crumble away in a few seconds. Apparently this can be very damaging or amusing depending on how much one dislikes the subject. Thus it is not recommended.
Alien, i really kind of doubt it would have that much of an effect on anyone.
Pretty much nobody believes in Unicorns either, but if one pranced up to the president, it wouldnt start the apocalypse, hell, even if it skewered him it wouldnt be that bad (What. i didnt vote for him).
But anyway, people are pretty familiar with vampires now, it takes skill to go on the internet, into a theatre, or in a mall without seeing the name and merchandise.
They aren't gods, and wont be feared nearly as much as people seem to think.
I feel like romanticism would come into play before fear.
Well said! haha
And frankly, I love Twilight... Not for the vamps, though
Cobroin posts,
"They aren't gods, and wont be feared nearly as much as people seem to think.
I feel like romanticism would come into play before fear.'
So well stated, and the fraction of those who identify as vampires are so very obviously out to impress, or intimadate, and their whole argument to those who won't subscribe to their vague ideals is that "Its because you are too afraid."
Hahahahahahaha Whoooooo Whoot ..
What they actually fear themselves.. is most likely indiffernce, as in "Oh you say your a vampire.. BIg Whoop.., Remember last week.. when you claimed to be a Mage?"
Please do not comment on things you truly do not have an idea about...
This is your opinion, I understand that.
But such a generalization is truthfully unfair to those of us who do identify as vampyres.
And quite frankly, I do not have a care on if you believe in us or not. You are wrong, but I am not going to start fights.
That is not the purpose of this thread.
This thread is for those of us who wish to discuss coming out, not to fight and argue on whether or not we are as real.
'and the *fraction of those who identify as vampires*
Bit reactive what?
Besides I said nothing about Vampyres, I clearly said Vampire.
I didn't realize you recognized the difference... my apoligies.
Cabrion, I assure you our leaders are quite aware of our existence, why do you think all presidents and prime ministers go grey so quickly.
As for your Unicorn theory; you are quite wrong, religious groups around the world are just looking for another excuse to "Jihad", most folk have trouble dealing with their mortgages let alone the truth about the Darkside.
They just keep an eye on other kin. Put simply, it as a truce, it is in neither parties interest to show out.
In case you think this is all supposition, I know of several Vamps who were met by some senior "officials" both in the Uk and abroad. The message; to keep their mouths shut. So they do, well apart from a little role playing on VR.
Therefore my advice stands, let the odd ones take the limelight and appear on Tyra banks, the wise stay away.
my family is fine with it..and my friends are ok with it too.
Some people know...
Others do not...
My family is fine with it.... was confused and later interested in it...
Some friends think I am joking... and others think I'm the
spawn of Satan himself. hahahaha!
They are usually bible thumping Christians though...
because EVERYTHING is Satanic that is not Christian.
lol
My family and friends all think I need a padded cell as it is. I just do my thing and don't advertise alot. Everyone basically leaves me alone. You can say almost anything with a smile, I can look them in the eye and tell the I am a psychic vampire with a faint smile and they will shake their head and laugh.
When I told my husband about it he flipped out big time... He even so far as to say that I needed help... However, we have since talked about it, and he is warming up to the idea of it which is all I can ask of him...
Alien, i'm pretty sure right now we have more worriesome things to spend our time on than whether or not vampires are real, we weren't so shattered when we heard witches were back on the rise (after the burnings, i mean the modern uprising. but vampires were included in that)
i really dont think people would have a big problem with it, and by this point i really doubt politicians would be interested in starting any wars, especially with the deficit. We're more likely to invade BP than declare a war on something the masses wouldn't believe in if they had video footage played on the news.
But w/e i'm not a politician and i wont pretend that i know exactly what they'd do. All i can say is that it wouldn't make sense for a suffering organism to start a war when they find something they didn't believe in.
But, you proposed a challenge a long time ago, and we had set up some dates but then i never heard back from you
My husband and kids don't understand my fasinaction with vampires, but then again they don't really understand me being Wiccan either. But they support me in what I believe in and what my beliefs are, they may not understand, just as I know the rest of my family wouldn't understand, but they would support me in what ever I decided to do or believe in.
Cabrion may I quote you " we wern't so surprised" this is because the We you refer to is those in this circle.
Those beyond would launch a "Jihad"
I know this as the government contacted me and told me to HUSH. It is one thing a biker/goth or renagade being turned it is another when a member of their own kith n kin with medals and judges commendations(check my profile), says " Excuse me it's absolutely true"
The person who tought me the craft knows and so does my only friend. My family doesn't ask me any questions so I don't give them any answers.
My friends laughed at me,My mom said it was okay,my sister said i was crazy, and everyone else shunned me....
(Bows in utmost reverence)
Though I am not a poser, yet I tried to live the way of a psychic vampire, dire energy. This experience taught me identifying energy and later intake of aura from the environment. There after I realized that this is not any special living and drown me to psychic dire is not good life of feeding on energy coz it locks me to subconscious state.
My self do not recommend the living of vampire. My family and surrounding peepal treat vampire not a good peepal. To them vampire in general term is harming others.