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is it really worth it to risk everyting for just a momnet with someone else?
how would you know if it's gonna last or if you are just waisting your time????
do u really think you are goin to spend the rest of your life with this person?? then why bother???

it's all a risk-- something you must be willing to take.

some risks r worth takin in life u jsut have to decide for ur self which ones r the right risks

Guys are like shoes.

Sometimes you just gotta try them on and take them for a run to see if they are a good fit for ya.

You have your dress shoes; although they are gorgeous, they pinch and give blisters.

You have your jogging shoes; they are fit and trim, but they do nothing but be on the run.

You have your weekend shoes, you only wear on the weekend, but your feet need something more reliable.

Then adventually in the back of the closet in the darkest part, before you give up you come across the old falling apart kind, normally you wouldn't take a second look at.

But when you try them on, you found a best friend for life. Yes, it's a perfect fit.

man there have been a lot of threads with this theme popping up lately.

i think sometimes you can just know what will happen if you have some higher degree of pychic ability, that comes out at least here and there.

for the most part, give it a go, if you get burned then there will be others. you just don't know for sure unless you try.

what a wonderful analogy, Lady Liliam.


That is oh so true.

♥

Maybe because theres a lot of beautiful things comming with the love and relations.

But its true that u never know If it will continue or end up so quickly as it begun.

Taking risks is what life is all about.. you don't want to spend your life regreting not taking them...What if this person was your soulmate?? would you give up the chance to be with him beacuse you were scared to take a chance..

if you dont want to take a risk whats the use of living

Take the risk, but make sure you can handle the pain. If you can't. it will tear you apart.

No... Don't do it. Stay single forever. Become a spinster.

What exactly are you looking for? Reassurance? For people here to tell you it will be alright and that you'll find true love someday?

The world doesn't work like that.

if you really cared about about the person why risk messing that up over something?

I wuv u Cancer

You'll only get hurt at the end of the day when they find a newer model and trade you in. Harsh but oh so true.

it depends for if i loved this person dearly then i would stake my very life on being with them for love is precious and once lost is not easily regained. so based on the circumstances i think it is worth it.

love ...something you will never know..
and something you always have and know
so well for it is all around.. why bother?
why not....to know.to risk it is the point...
for we are put here to learn so many things love is the greatest gift given. and to share...(which i like sharing)

You now thats a good question ok here is my thought..... It's all how you are treated at home if the person you are with does'nt treat you right then why not I'm not saying go off and cheat cause you think you are being done wrong get your P's and Q's straight before you do it and find out if this is what you really want.. Allways remember to make yourself happy first cause if your not happy then how can you perceed with the relationship...

thats a question you have to answer on your own....we might tell you something buti n the end u end up doing w.e u please....


so go ahead and follow your heart, your mind, whatever it is you want to do...just do it.

I agree that not everyone will find true love Cancer, things just don't go that way. Personaly I don't go looking for love, but I am not going to throw love away if it happens to find me. If it never finds me, eh, can't do diddly about it so I am not going to worry about it.
lol, but as for the normal usage of the term couple, I must admit it is better to stay single.
Friendship all the way, oooohhh yeaahhh.

You never know how things are going to turn out. You only have a few ways you can go. 1) stay home and look out your window and wish you had someone. 2) Try to hook up with someone you like and maybe have a happy like with that person. 3) Go out live your life and if you meet someone great. When it comes down to it, this is your life and its all up to you. This is life and it does not always work the way you want it.

That is a matter everyone should find out on their own at their own time so that way if they are truly ready and if something bad happens say a split up then you will be ready for it.

Better to live loving rather than live life and never have loved before

if you have a lot in common with this person and you get along well what does it hurt to see where it might lead. theres always other fish in the sea

of course it's a waste of time, just keep your legs closed..hehehe

the crime would be to never risk anything at all. to let it all just happen without your intervention.

risk is part of being alive.
to do something, is better than doing nothing at all.

well in my oppion yes a realtionshipp dose deserve a chance for the simple fact that just may be you will find that some one that may last for a life time or a long time. after all now days love is ome thing that is mistaken for sex and well unfortunatly thats the truth. but there is hope in the world other wise if there wasnt then all hell would break lose wouldnt it

It does'nt allways have ti be about sex whom ever you are this person can be the one you've been looking for all your life and if it does'nt work out well you've learned a lesson... I dont know why every thing allways has to pertain to sex...

why bother with the risk you ask.....
what is life without risk
careful...con't eat the food....might choke on it
it's a risk....
it's a terrible risk you know...stepping past your front door....you never know where your road might travel

we are all speaking the same words though in a different way, so let me take my share...
You took so many risks till now, I know that because you're alive, so why stop now?
No, don' take any risks, don't wake up!

its s risk we gotta take.... I love my man!

its not worth the risk if it will effect your future, you must put your future security first

Oh no! Its just like :
Maybe it is wort it cos the relation will be beautiful....
or NoT.
Noone can tell exactly.

'You'll never know if you don't find out'.
If you're regarding cheating; if you're in a relationship which is perfectly good, cheating is a very bad idea. Unless you think the other person is the total shiznit and you think they'd be interested in a relatinship with you, then it's up to you.

Basically, no one knows whats going to be. We all have regrets of opportunities we haven't taken, or things we have done. It's true, it is all about taking risks and making decisions. It's just how it is, but we learn from it, and we gain new experiences and become stronger and more wise really.

Relationships in particular can be so difficult and complicated, especially when tossing up who you prefer. It's all a challenge and a learning experience, but you'll never know unless you find out...

life is a risk, if you don't take you will never know...sometimes you win sometimes you don't

I totally have no idea if anything I said before made sense

It is tricky, because on one hand you are with someone, and on the other, you find another so intriguing, and lovely...and delicious...even very familiar, as if from another life! You have to consider what you have with the older love, and then what you might have with the new.
I need some security in the matter, but at the same time, I can be quite passionate about these things. I tend to be aggressive at times, so I would kiss them. Sometimes, that is enough. If you don't, you could regret not doing it, and if you do, you could regret the indescretion.

Whichever the choice, it is merely another lesson in life and another experience....and it could be something just for you. *smile*
No regrets.....................? It is miserable to love sometimes....guess we all need the angst.

This reminds me of that song by Robert Palmer, "Riptide".

"Riptide, caught in a riptide;
Torn between two loves, the old and the new.
Riptide, lost in a riptide.
Where will it take me? what shall I do?
My heart is tossed.... on a sea of emotion;
One love offers romance, the other devotion.
The new love is calling..... the old love is pleading.
I'm caught in a riptide... what shall I do?
♥

LMAO .. I totally agree with cancer ... I'll probley be stuck a spinster for the rest of my life and I'm happy about it!
I'm tired of looking I always find crap and I put up with it .. I don't complain I just deal ... so why can I do the same being single :)

I guess it's for you to decide whether that person is worth that risk.

Loved Lady Lillian's analogy by the way.

i belive its worth it if the person truely loves you and you truely love them then iits your decision i beliveits worthit

About relationships......

"Nothing is permanent" .......Buddha

"Life is Suffering" ........ Buddha


Ya know... Buddha was a depressing guy sometimes to be a fat smiling dude!!

i think its always worth it if ur heart says so. life is full of risks, that's how we live life. listen to ur heart.
;)

Yeah follow your heart.

Nicnivian... a spinster....never
don't worry nic....i'll keep stalking you... at least you'll have that....
lol

If asked this a week ago I'd say pursue it, hold onto your hopes and all that sappy stuff..But now I'm not so sure...

If something is presented before you, a person who seemed like the perfect match for you, and all signs seemed to point to "Yes, you should pursue this" And then you decide to put your heart out...

And then this perfect person takes your heart, rips it from your chest and sets it on fire. Leaving you completely lost, feeling as if you've lost the best thing in your life, which at the time seems as if it can never be replaced.

This exact thing happened to be within the past week. For someone such as myself to be left in utter confusion, it had to have had a big impact, because the guy was a complete coward about going about the situation, lying to my face, claiming false love, then disappearing, and it took someone else prying the answer from him for me to even know, despite my asking and asking just for honesty...Suddenly he was knocked off his pedestal and really unworthy of respect in my eyes, because of all the people in the world, I'd have thought if anyone would step up and atleast be a man and show honesty...that it would be him.

What I'm saying is, sometimes even when the signs tell you it's right, and to follow your heart, your heart will lead you right into rush hour traffic, and when it comes to someone who everything theyve shown you has become a lie, you find yourself having to reevaluate a lot of things, even your own judge of character.

I'm still trying to convince myself it's not me..that he was a bastard, and there's nothing I can do to chage his feelings or the fact that he was a bastard.

I'll tempt my own gag reflex and dare to say something optimistic. Forgive me if I vomit mid-sentence. "When you can't go any farther down, then the only place to go from there is up..unless you choose to just stay there and rot"

I feel like I'm starting to ferment, so I guess it's time I got up and did everything in my power to try to climb out of this hole I'm in.

it's true that theres nothing more beautiful than finding someone that will somehow compliment you... the other half of what you are... and it's so hard to find that person, and yet at the same time so easy

the best advice i ever gave anyone stems from my personal experience... i spent most of my life just looking all over the place looking for the right one, then came a time where i got sick of it all and decided to just concentrate on myself, so i took a year out where, rather than hating myself for my inability to find someone decent, learned to love myself for who i am, and realised that to find my compliment who i'd be able to love i'd have to work on myself... know myself, love myself and respect myself for who and what i am. after i had 'straightened out' my relationship with myself, then that's where i finally felt ready to be able to face letting anyone else into my little circle of self loving and for the first time i can say ive never been better in any relationship.

so what i can say is... love and respect yourself for who you are and don't change yourself for anyone. the best relationship anyone can ever have is with themselves, and if that isn't enough, someone will come along that will love you for all that you are... good and bad. don't sell yourself short and accept no one other than that one. there is no such thing as a 'fault' in a person... something is only a 'fault' if you don't accept it. otherwise it is yet another thing that makes you unique. the only way to be happy with someone is to love them for all that they are and to be loved back for all that you are, good points and bad.

Jeeze thanks Daermon ... follows along the milf lines huh :/ lol

MistressNightshade .. I totally agree with ya on that one ... that emotional rollercoaster is one HELL of a ride huh? ... But enjoy the fact that your female ... and females have a tendancy to go back to the angry bitter side of things ... hehe it's what keeps me going daily right now *grinz*

Oh absolutely Nic....I'm getting past the sad stage to the angry stage....and now I think I'm going to drag my friend ravensblood out and blow a wad of cash and try to forget the idiot....

A new pair of 6 in heeled boots might help to cure my broken heart....

That and about a dozen lattes and finding whatever mischief we can get into and taking full advantage of it.

hey whatever keeps ya going lol
wish I had money to spend on boots right now lol ... soon income tax will come and I can buy myself something then :) ... ohh and those Moo Latte's at Dairy Queen are AWESOME .. expensive (like $6) but they definantly hit the spot on the chocolate and coffee scale hehe

you mentioned something about risk, and what I keep in mind is the greater the risk, the better the reward. So is the reward worth it to you? The main questions to ask yourself. And I personally believe the answer is yes.

When no one wants you, you learn to be at peace with yourself and accept lonelyness.......

its all true, everything's a risk if ur willing to take it.

Spinister sounds harsh.. I prefer Ms :) Mind you, some people reagard this title of "Ms" to imply that the woman has divorced particularly in the business field. Is this the same in America?

If you dont try you will never know. I dont want to use the obvious quote here, but if you dont try to let your guard down then you will never know how it feels to do so.

As Deity said, you have to be willing to take such a ruisk, and I dont really think that making that decision gets any easier.

I can't relate; do you think your going to be with someone for the rest of your life?;Are they at your death bed?
You'll really be with someone the rest of your life? Can people take your picture?

If you want to live forever.. Do Not give your heart to someone else.. it's a fatal mistake.. but then again, without love in your life, it often feels worthless... so you can't win really.... live fast, die young..

If you ever feel lost, or should i say without the love of a person. you will remember when you took things and decisions for granted and speeded thoughts around, take things slow! light hurts when you see it after being in the dark for a period of time.

relationships are hard to determine... but you know what... in the end once u find that one person its all worth it... becuz everyone u date before that or have feelings for... show u the things u like & don't like in a person.. it helps u in the long run i think.

Many things involve risk. A lot of things that are worth doing involve risk and challenge. I couldn't give advice or make judgments.

yeah i think u guys are right i will take the ridk, the only thing is that i took too long and there is not gonna be a relationship anymore.....i guess i should've taken the risk aerlier, and risk everytihing.. but i backed off and waited to see and nothing happended.
from now on i'm gonna take the risks no matter what..

well yes, i thought exactly the same way you did and went through a period in my life where i thought that relationships were pointless if they weren't going to be endless.....but now i'm quite addicted to romance!!
Here's a thought......if you only wanted to have one relationship that lasted forever in the duration of your life....how would you truly know if that specific person was right for you???

Your very right PoisonGirl. You'll never know if the person your with is really the one person for you but if you don't risk it than you might really miss out on something.

Why aren't people willing to take risks anymore?

i like moments..they are so sweet and u always have that moment in ur mind even if the relationship doesnt last u have all those moments u shared but u also have to take those moments seriously......if u dont then theres no point in sharing that moment......i before didnt do this i just recently have been i guess getting lost in moments and its a great feeling and when the nites done and u question if itll last or question what will happen next u dont have to question if that moment u just shared was real or not because ull know it was cause it just happened......i dont kno if that makes any sense what so ever but i say dont focus so much on the future live in the little moments yall have just run with it , it could be great or horrible but how will u know if u never give it a try

Daermon you surmised this the best ...

what is life without risk
careful...con't eat the food....might choke on it
it's a risk....
it's a terrible risk you know...stepping past your front door....you never know where your road might travel

Just as everything in life is a risk, so is love a part of that. It's unfortunate that when a person takes that risk and they do end up burned for whatever reason they can't move on and take it as a learning experience for the next go round. They just give up, shut down and allow the walls to build up around them so high that they end up not being able to see over it anymore, to see that there very well could be someone standing on the other side. The person who could be the one that "fits" or belongs with them, by their side.

:^(

life is unpredictable... take a choice and know that,that choice was made by you and no one else and to live your life to the fullest.

2 years ago, I figured I would prolly marry when I was like 30 or older. I really couldn't stand men at all. The ones that were the same age or slightly younger than me where annoying and immature as hell. The ones that were any older than me thought they were high and mighty and I was nothing to them. When I was about 13, I had a dream about the man I was supposed to marry. I couldn't see his face and I knew nothing about him in this dream. In March of 2003, I met Mike and it was literally love at first sight (and I never believed in that before.) Within 4 months, we were married. On our wedding night, I saw my dream, once again, except it was real. I was always afraid of getting burned, but I took major risks with Michael and they payed off. We are still happly married and I wouldn't think of another man.... ever.

To have loved and lost, is better than to never of loved at all......

Even if you do end up in a mental instiution and start talking to dead people.... (and no, i have done neither!)

well relatioships all or should start out at a friendship level cause what if you guys break up but you still got that friendship that brought you together in the first place. I have forgotten that friendship must stay in the within the relatioship the whole time or your love will start to fade away. I lost my dream guy that way and everyday i see him it kills me inside wishing that i was back in his arms.

yeah i think i'm mostly afraid of geting hurt and feel pain again and end up hurtin myself again .. i think is not worth it.
i think i should not get involve w/ n e one so that way i don't get hurt or n e thing.......
but i wanna feel love again i know it sounds emo or whatever but i wanna feel like i'm wanted and some one else wants me u know... i'm tired of feling lonely.. but i'm also tired of wackin up in the middle of the night and crying because some on else hurtme so bad that it.. there is no words to explain it...

Here is a little poem that I have on my profile, it may help those who are afraid to take a risk. A friend in Ireland gave it to me some time ago..

RISK TAKING

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk
involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before the crowd
is to risk ridicule.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming
odds is to risk failure.
Only a person who takes risks is
FREE.

Hope that helps with the risk issue a little :)

Emmy that's a very good poem! kinda makes you think a little :)

Dhampir That quote is one of the best I must say ... and just about everyone has experianced and lived it just a little!

Just remember everyone wants to feel loved or wanted or needed or all 3 (or more for that matter) Just take life as it comes .. if you decide risks are what you want to take then so be it.. follow the risk train and hop on... couldnt hurt you much more then's already happened .. and as others have said if you risk everything and get hurt outta it then atleast you've Learned something!! :)

Yea, but I still would not fall in love on the internet! that is too chancy for me! heh Prolly the reason why my occupation is Health and Safety.. I guess

thanks Emaerald the poem was waesome i think i shoud really think about it and see what to do..
thanks for everyone for writing here and being cool w/ the fact that i can't make up my mind...

ultimately it's your decision... but we all take risks every day...
Weigh the options then decide...

why not risk everything for someone in a relationship cause life is just times that are meant to have fun cause you only live once unless you are immortal. Well i say why not gamble on a relatioship? Maybe you'll get something out that realtionship that will never exspact. I have gambled so meny times but i still want to gamble my life for someone thinking maybe you'll get a serous thing out of the deal.

well dear its all up to you to ultimately decide if the chance that your heart gets broke is worth what you could have. i know for me i ust recently talked to manifestchaos and evn tho i got my heart torn in two i would totally do it again cause the feeling i had was an amazing one and i still would have done it even tho i know now how it ended. i know i love him and he don't love me the same way but the taste of his kisses will linger and the way that i felt when i was in his arms!!!!!! the safety and the comfort that i felt. *tears well up* i'd still do it. maybe i wouldve even tried to make more happen.

Great poem Emmy, you know just what to say! :-)

As Cancer said, we can't reassure you, so just do ti or dont, but dont overrate a life with someone else, it isn't the most imporant thing. Try doing some living first...

hmm... should call this thread relationshits...

i agree with SimpLesLyDeAd

LOL at Amethyst, think your totally right!

If we all had Dark Mans opin ion then these love thread wouldn't go on forever. Inf act Ive started a poll about love threads if anyones interested (sorry hun, not trying to steal your thunder.)

You only live once they say...enjoy people while you can because you might regret it later if you don't.

Also to worry about rules and consequence isn't really living. Sure there will be mistakes, but sharing a moment with someone can last a lifetime. Enjoy this life by doing what your heart wants.

well put cancer...

lifes about risks, if you're not willing to take any, you might as well crawl inside of a shell a wither away. You'll never know until you try take a risk!

i took a risk with a guy i really liked, ended up loving, and got my heart broke in the end. But the moments we had together when we were both in love was defiently worth it...

Your never going to know till ya go for it. LIfe is about risks. Ya don't take them then your pretty much dead.

I take risks with having a girl friend... because I can't see her or visit her until I get a car I can only take her word for it that she is not cheating on me with someone else... and so far my trust has been well worth it... because I have grown to love her and if any harm should come to her because of another person they will pay with their lives... so yeah take the risk... the worst thing that could happen is that it doesn't workout between you; for what ever reason

Without risks, there's no pleasure!
-write that down- :))

I do not know that my next breath wont kill me yet i breath
I dont like being hurt but also there is very little pleasure in isolation.
So I Bother!
mew mew

i dont think u really know about the person or weather there the right one till u have sent alot of time with them and if it is jsut a waste of time aleast u had fun for a little while

well said ellie....most people are put off relationships due to previous heart breaks....the way i see it is every heart break leads you towards true love...but i guess that doesnt apply in everybodies case..

i dont really no if ur going to spend the rest of ur life with them no matter how much u love them something always happens and thats not 2 good but the way i believe is that make the best of what u have cause it could be gone the next day

Relationships are a gamble. You risk alot sometimes. and some of them will come out good, others bad you never know i say take the risk, hell, its orth a shot

Is this another love thread... GAG

You take a chance to find out the answer. What do they say; better to have loved and lost, than to not be loved at all?" I mean you take a chance everyday being who you are. Why not take the chance being with somebody right now, than wondering 10 years down the road what if?

that is so true

take a chance see if it fits

It would all really depend on the person and what feelings are present. If there is a certain bond or undying love then yes by all means risk but as soon as you see signs of trouble the best thing to do is to cut and run.

heh seems my last relationship.well now i've learned my lesson, first myself and then others.PS.love hurts

::mutters indistinct curse's under breath::
Realtionships are like most things they either work or they don't simple as and as for how much you wanna put into it thats up to and your strentgh of character if it does break down but seriously thinking about it now jus go and be a (safe) player and settle down LATEr in life but hell you think your ready for it do it early whatever suits YOU.