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People have many fears, other have none. I used to be scared of the dark but i got over it. How do u think people get over fears?
Why do you think people get fears?

I no this is weird but i fear mice. I don't know how it happened or why but i freak out whenever i see one which is often thanks to my cat.

Why do people have fears?




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most fears are from things you do not understand.Some develope fear due to experiences that scared them, such as I have a fear of closet doors being open..go ahead and laugh* yet my sibling which are 6 - 7 yrs older than me would pull pranks on me and jump out of the closet terrifing me . so I refuse to go to bed till the door is shut LOL some have fear of water due to near drowning experiences, there are many different reasons for some ones fears. Human are not the only ones to have fear animals do also due to the same thing a bad experience or something, once it gets in you brain / mind it is hard to forget so the fear carries on for a long time

This is why a good lawyer will say something in a court room then the judge tells the jury to dismiss what was said, they cannot cause it has already been planted within their mind/ conscience... legal tactics LOL

Fear yet is controled by the mind so you just have to learn to control that fear and not be afraid... some have a lifetime of tring and not succeeding and yet some do very well with just blockin it out of facing the fear it self..



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I'm afraid of falling from hights, if i am high up and safe in the knowledge that there is no way i can plunge to my death i am fine, but if there is the slightest chane that i can fall from a drop, even if its only a foot i cant move...I'm a woose.



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you can get over fear by understanding it or just experiencing it so much it doesn't bother you

i used to be afraid of the dark as well but then i just realized that the only things that are in the dark are creations of my imagination now i still get wierd feelings in the dark sometimes but i now actually perfer the dark over light



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What causes fear? .. perhaps what sets fears.. An example is readily offered above. Some activity/event that we witness, consciously or subconsciously lays the foundation for fear, and becomes the seed sometimes for related fears. Common fears are anchored in tradition as well.

Turning a fear into a challenge, can aid in over coming fear.



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Love (attraction) and Fear (repulsive) both relate by degree.



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fear is caused by a traumatic experience or not understanding the unknown. As far as getting over the fear u have to meet it head on.

As far as me I have no fear



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So education decreases fear? Expanding ones Knowledge can make things that are considered "unknown" known, then one can realize that what appeared to be unknown, was just an illusion created to spark irrational fear.



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I have a fear of clowns, which I know stems back to when I was 3 years old, and my dad took me to the circus, a few days after my sister was born.

A clown came and sat besides me, and pretended to take my candy, it was that which scared me, but the painted face, as I couldn't see the real emotions of the person playing the clown. Apparently that is a big cause of fears of clowns, the painted face, and not being able to compute the acctual emotion.

I also have a fear of mold.... the green stuff on food, not the town in wales, and also falling downstairs.



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one of my greatest fears is water. i have been afraid of water since i was a child, i didn't even want to learn to swim because i was sure there were dead people under the water(in the public swimming pool). i believe i drowned in a past life. when i am in the shower once the water is hitting me i fear turning around or exiting lest i come face to face with a rotting corpse. when in water i can feel them touching me. i do not close my eyes in the bath, i will not go into a lake or ocean further than my knees. wading out to far brings me absolute terror. i don't know how i will overcome it. i hust learn to live with it.



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my biggest fear has always been spiders... they freak me out so bad... i will leave the house and find someone to kill it...even watching them on tv gives me goose bumps



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22:29:24 Oct 25 2008
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I fear a few things..not many..however my fear is something happening to one of my children but guess that is a fear all parents face. I also do not like snakes or bugs...it may be more of a dislike rather than fear but will somewhat spaz when I see them.



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People have different fears for different reasons though at first thous reasons are not always clear, maybe it was some thing that happened when we where children and forgot as we grew up but not the fear?

I am terrified by clowns, I don't know why I'm scared to death of clowns all I know is that I feel physically sick at seeing some one dressed up as a clown.



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I have noticed that in my years that seems to be a common fear (clowns) among people. I wonder where that fear may come from...is it because their faces are painted up much like a scary character at Halloween or could it be due to the movie "It" that some children may have seen when they were smaller. I do not know but it is something I may have to research to see what kind of answers I may find about this common fear that most people do not know why they fear them.



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Here is a post I found about a fear of clowns that some may be interested in.....http://ask.yahoo.com/20050310.html

Dear Yahoo!:
A lot of my friends seem to have a fear of clowns. Why is this?
Jessica
San Francisco, California

Dear Jessica:
It's strange how clowns send so many folks running for the exits. Actually, maybe not. Anyone who's read "It" by Stephen King or stumbled across a picture of serial killer John Wayne Gacy in floppy shoes is understandably a bit on-edge at the circus (or the rodeo, for that matter).
The official term for this irrational aversion to red-nosed entertainers is coulrophobia. While many are merely creeped out by clowns, the fear runs much deeper for others, affecting their daily lives.

Several theories attempt to explain the origins of the phobia, though none seem definitive. One of the more interesting comes from Kathryn Cillick. She believes most people are afraid of clowns because it's impossible to gauge a clown's true emotions. Thanks to painted-on smiles, people can't distinguish if the clown is as happy as he seems or if he's actually about to bite somebody's face off.

Several celebrities are decidedly anti-clown. Rapper P. Diddy has a "no clown" clause in his concert contracts. Johnny Depp had nightmares of clowns as a kid. And, of course there's Bart Simpson, whose utterance "Can't sleep, clown will eat me" speaks volumes about his feelings on the subject.

Thank goodness Jerry Lewis' "The Day the Clown Cried" was never released, lest we all be in straitjackets.




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00:14:15 Oct 26 2008
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Then there is the fear of Mascot Costumed people as well, I would imagine that the two are associated by degrees.



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I would have to agree with you there Dabbler. From what I have read about the fear of clowns is that psychologically they have not found a basis for the fear.



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my daughter was scared to death for a long time of anyone in a mask or body costume. Chuckie Cheese, Santa Claus, etc i can understand fear of someone who hides their face.



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I am afraid of large crowds,
rabbits,


I think our minds play tricks on us or we were scared by someone when we were younger....or by some thing.



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The only real fear I personally have, a rater irrational one, is the idea of 'ghostly children'.

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We showed my younger brother, a person getting out of a Chucky Cheese costume, to help him over come his fear of costumed mascots
keep in mind my younger brother is Down Syndrome impaired.. he then followed with an interesting logic, that Cartoon Characters Are people in costumes. I have met three kids since that have the same belief.


Fears are as strong as society supports them (actively, or inactivively) Some fears are out of self preservation, like being afraid of fire.. though some may have a respect for fire, others are likely to have a base fear intensified by fire. Caution, and Paranoia are not the same thing. But a cautious person, can indirectly fuel irrational fears in others.



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Fear can be caused from a wide range of things such as the unknown, traumatic events, imagination and like Dabbler pointed out self-preservation. I tend to focus on something and get carried away. I have a fear of suffocation. Whenever I have a cold and my sinuses are stuffed up I get anxious....



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06:00:46 Oct 26 2008
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You mostly fear what you dont understand but sometimes you are afraid of things you should be afraid of.



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Snakes...for me it is snakes. Even the fake rubber ones...i have to swallow a scream every time I see one. Something about them just freaks me out. I grew up around them...but my sisters also would put them in my bed. I have tried to hold snakes to try to get over this fear...for me it doesn't work. Something about them just creeps me out.

My mom is deathly afraid of alligators, even the alligator logo on clothes she cannot handle to look at or touch. Fears are a weird thing



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I am afraid of spiders(arachnophobia) and to a degree to tight spaces(claustrophobia)


to help elevate them is a hard means, some believe direct contact is the way some thing that just helping to expose them lil by lil is the way.unfortunately there is no true way to eliminate most fears until the person who is victim to this has made amends for what ever demon spawned their fear.



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A fear is nothing more then a misunderstanding of something or an uncertainty.

i use to be afraid of the dark. but then i realized it was not the dark i was afraid of, it was what i couldn't see. now, i no longer fear the dark, i rely on my hearing, and my sense's to help me.



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We all have fears...or at least should. Fear gets the adrenaline going and triggers our "Fight or Flight" reflex.

All animals have fear. It's to trigger an automatic response to "get the hell out of there" or something REALLY bad will happen. Most animals don't understand death. Because humans understand the myriad of possibilities that can occur from drowning, being eaten, being killed, that imagination can sometimes kick into overdrive and something innocuous like a moth or a clown can trigger way too much adrenaline.

My greatest fear??? Snakes! Not a single reason for it. In my mind, nothing should be able to move that fast on land without FEET! When the fear gets to a point where it's completely irrational or overblown? It's the psychological condition of a phobia. My fear of a Black Mamba is justified! Screaming and crying and panicking at the sight of a tiny little harmless garter snack?? Irrational phobia.


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Here are the definitions of fear and phobia that I found on Dictionary.com:

fear   /fɪər/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [feer] Show IPA Pronunciation

–noun 1. a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
2. a specific instance of or propensity for such a feeling: an abnormal fear of heights.
3. concern or anxiety; solicitude: a fear for someone's safety.
4. reverential awe, esp. toward God.
5. that which causes a feeling of being afraid; that of which a person is afraid: Cancer is a common fear.
–verb (used with object) 6. to regard with fear; be afraid of.
7. to have reverential awe of.
8. Archaic. to experience fear in (oneself).
–verb (used without object) 9. to have fear; be afraid.


pho⋅bi⋅a   /ˈfoʊbiə/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [foh-bee-uh] Show IPA Pronunciation

–noun a persistent, irrational fear of a specific object, activity, or situation that leads to a compelling desire to avoid it.



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I am reading some very good post here, and a question comes to mind, flight of flight being instinctual to us, and self preserving fear are necessary, but when does a fear cross the line between rational, and irrational? What supports the fear of X, experience with X alone, someone said something memoriable about X, or experience with X, and a graphic tale about X together?



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When I was younger I was torcherd with Spiders and now I flip out when ever i see one
I think fear is caused by a traumatic experience or it's caused by trying to fit in with the crowd and then you start to believe it....or at least thats my opinion



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Wow, fashionable fear.. I admit I am weary of clowns but I am understanding to those who are ascareded of them.. Coulrophobics.. I got yer' Back.. Fashionable fear, that makes so much sense...



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Fear is implanted by peers as well, those that like to invent things to be afraid of, so that they (the person that tells the tale) can boast of fearless-ness to such invented things, or embellished account of X. Fear for self gratification



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I afraid of what may be in the dark and its because if I can't turn on lights I lose control of the situation. I use to be afraid of heights and I found its not the heights but what happens if I start falling. I actually enjoy climbing and rappeling.



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We are born with only two fears. First fear on the dark(unknown)For you can not see in the dark,it may be a predator. Fear of Falling -causes injury goes against your survival instinct. All others are a learned response. For example a dog bites you ,you fears dogs which caused you pain.



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As others have pointed out some fears are caused by events that happened to them.
It can be something that was not expected meaning just all of a sudden or something that they have been living with for a period of time and it escalated.
Some have the fears as others pointed out for self-preservation maybe afraid the same thing will affect them again if they let down their guard at all.
I had an incident happen as a kid of about 7 where i was almost drowned because these girls had their dobermans with them at the lake and they kept coming out at me when i was trying to get out and i kept going under so after that i would dream of that and being chased by dobermans and have maintained a fear of dobermans to this day.
I also have a tremendous fear of heights but not sure what caused this one. :S



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Fear of heights is fear on falling. one born with. Still got that one myself. Yell at me for being silly the ladder is steady.Right?? hope so.



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I have a fear of Snakes and Heights.Those are my main fears.The fear of snakes came when I was at a Zoo with my grandparents and family.I saw a lose snake and screamed out..Plus this past summer I saw a snake and literally hyperventilated as well though.The fear of Heights came into play when 9/11 happened.Since then I have been scared to fly in a air plane.



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Everyone has fears u face em u get over em but the memories remain so did u really get over em u still think about that time and it stays with u u never forget as long as u live how afraid u were in that moment. even the strongest of people fear something death, the loss of someone or something, loosing, the dark, they may apeare to be tough as steel but there is something that frightens everyone...



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I used to be afraid of the dark. and I'm trying to get over the fact that one day I wont walk this earth anymore that I will die and that will be it that I will be in the ground and become apart of this amazing creation the earth it has always been something that was very hard to cope with and understand.



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Some fears just need to be faced to get over them. Some you will never be able to get over for a variety of reasons. Some fears are brought on becuase of severly traumatic events.

As we age some fears become less and less as we learn to understand and ideantify the cause of them.

Some fears may seem small in comparison to another fear you get later in life.

I know from my own experiences that as a child I had many fears, as an adult I do not have those same fears. There are fears that I have gained through various events in my life, and some I am still working to overcome.

Ultimatly how you handle the object of your fear will either help you or hinder you in the long run.
Lets not forget that there are some fears that people get that are dehabilitating.



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Some people may have fears that are generated from childhood. Sometimes common fears, such as those from spiders (arachnapobia) may actually be dispelled from childhood. Say a parent was terrified of spiders, the child may say, "Wow, I don't want that kind of fear/control from something." That may also expand into not fearing much - as it controls one.

Then again, some fears may come just..."as if." Per se - you are in a crowded store - you get the feeling of...oh this is NOT for me. It doesn't necessarily mean it's a fear. It's a strong statement to say, "Fear of crowds." Serious dislike of crowds would be better stated "avoiding what you don't feel comfortable with"...as with other circumstances.

Though with any "fear" or "dislike" one can face those things head on - if the will is there. Where is the line drawn between an actual "fear" or "disliking" a situation?



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my sister has a deep fear of ants. my niece loves teasing her about it all of the time and she's 7.

i myself have fear of churches, they make me feel very uncomfortable. but i look my fears in the face and confront them.

thats all that you can do.



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Disecting the fear can prove informative as well, it may not be a fear of crowds you have but an uneasy feeling of stranger contact. learning to adjust ones comfort zone in public can aleviate the frequency of epasoids, I like the mention that some fear labels are "knee jerk" labels, could that have something to do with what was mentioned earlier, the Fad Fear Theory?



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Please everyone remember to answer the original question. Merely listing your own fears does not further discussion unless you use your experiences to answer the questions:

How do you think people get over fears?Why do you think people get fears?




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How do people get over fear?

By Building confidence, and learning to be cautious, without obsessing over those fears.



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Why do people get fears? I may get flack for this post, I think some people adopt fears because they seek to be comforted by others.



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fear in most cases is a lack of understanding for what is unknown to us. As far as I'm concerned, I don't fear what I don't understand- I try to find out more about it.



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How do people get over fears i honestly can't speak on that from personal experience but know that some have even had to seek therapy to conquer fears.
While others might just get deeply determined to get past what caused their fears in the first place and end up succeeding and have left their fears behind.



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I hear fear of the "unknown" quite a bit, what "unknown" are there? Would that be fear of things that appear to be something they are not. Would that be a fear of imagined things?



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A twist to that could be fear of the future...what is unknown. Now THAT would be an all consuming fear.



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Fears can be caused by a traumatizing experience. Say a person is stung by several bees - they then may have an experience-generated fear of bees from then on.

Taking the same subject, someone who is severely allergic to bees (as in resulting in potential death from a sting) may have a fear of bees purely as a matter of self-preservation.



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One would find that person in a dire straight in the present, such people are fodder for fanatical mass movements. Eric Hoffer True Believer. Those frustrated with the present are always projecting into the past or the future, there they find all the things that appeared to alter their dire present. Grim isn't it?



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fear can be cause by many things. Some fear death but I dont.
my own fear is spiders and it isnt that I dont understand them its simply because how they look.
fear cant be explained. some have fears past down thre family because as chilren we are fearless until some-one shows us a reason to be scared



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I do not believe that you are born with any fears at all and they are something learned from a bad experience or could even be a learned response as well.

As far as overcoming them some I think can be faced headon by confronting that fear and whether you would view it as rational or irrational. But I do not think all fears can be overcome by facing them.



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fear can be one of two things in my opinion: Lack of understanding for the way something works, or even a traumatic experience can cause it. Those who have been through life-threatening experience sometimes fear being in the same circumstances- or sometimes they lose fear of everything like I did- tough to call considering everyone is different in that respect.



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I think that past circumstances create fear. I know that all of my fears are based on bad things that have happened to me throughout the years.



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Fear makes us who we are, it is the anxiety of the unknown.



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Fears can be brought on by anything traumatic that has happened to u in life if the same thing keeps happening to you then you would probably fear it happening again. The only way to get over your fears is to face them


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There isnt much that im afraid of. the one thing that i am really afraid of is the unknown. you ever be walking in the dark. You have knowledge of what is and where sometimes when. But what about what we dont know? The unknown? Not so much afraid of the dark, but afraid of what can be in it!



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Sometimes when people are stubbling around in the dark, it is because they will not open their eyes and move adjust to what they can see.
One persons darkness is anothers shadows. Stimulated (or allowed darkness), is not really something to over come as it is fabricated external projects. Invent the "scary concept" of darkness(scary to others) comfortable to yourself. Then claim mastery over it. Poof?



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Casting a shadow, and then calling it darkness, is that over coming your fear of the dark if you are only in your comfort zone? Are you not then adjusting your environment against exposer to Darkness.. I see people projecting their fears onto others by climing the "have no fears, yet I would bet that if they where placed in a tryng situation fear, and intimadation would confront them on what they thought, if one proclaims too much... ?



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Not all fears can be faced head on...like for me it is fear of one of my children dying..that I am afraid would not be possible to face unless it happened. Being afraid of spiders and snakes..yes you can face them.



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Transforming through dicipline Fear into Caution, or building confidence. Perhaps after building confidence, one can consider adjusting their "obsessive concerns".



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Dab..do you believe then my fear is an "obsessive concern" then?



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No I only presented that to show an extreme of the spectrum.



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People who have fear and strive to overcome them our truly the brave ones. Without fear, one cannot be brave. Without braveness, one is a coward. So, it is not one who has no fear who is brave, but one who has fear is the brave one.



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Now that I re-read the post you made I understand what you had meant by that as for some their fears come from insecurities about themselves.



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It could be the context you are placing fear.. instinctual preservation is much closer. When a parent starts to confine their child to "isolate" the child, it becomes just as potential of damaging the child. Fear is locked up and petrified, insticnct is nose to the air for danger, as the cubs explore their world. we must teach children, real not embelished reasons to be cautious.



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I had never told my son of the nightmare I had and I try not to be an over obsessive parent. He was close to age 16 I believe when I had the nightmare and it could have been the onset of empty nest syndrome. That may have caused the dream as his life was changing and he was spending more time away from home and with his friends. I never kept my kids from being who they are or doing things with their friends out of fear. Now my two oldest are adults now and I have acceptedd that but still worry as all parents do.



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A healthy upbringing, I am sure there where some cliff hanger, and after ever cliff hanger a period of hyper alert. instinct. If your boys watched you close they will have gotten a jump on developing that instinct, and when they are parents themselves, they will not pass on fear, but cautionary instincts as well.



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I hate public speaking. That's what my biggest fear is.



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My fears are minimal..


I am sort of not afraid to die, but I am more recently.. cos I almost did a couple months ago. I am also afraid of a few certain hospitals out here in Az. I don't like people I don't know looking my body over for things of illness. Especially if they have no clue as to what they are doing!

Other than that I am not really scared of anything..



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chucky, jason, freddy, pinhead, captin hoody, captin spalding



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My biggest fear is being alone.



I believe the reason I have this fear is because both my parents left me when I was young, but now I can't get rid of it.


I also hate clowns. Because when I was younger I was raped and IT was on the T.V. so to destract myself I found myself watching the movie and cring instead.



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I fear spiders and burning alive...

im starting to face my spider problem simply by finding tiny harmless looking spiders and forcing myself to touch them. But they start to crawl and i drop them.

Burning alive is something i cant get over i cant even watch it in the movies...its just something that shakes me.

So im not sure there is any real way to completely get over our fears


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i think fears derive from something in our past, weather dreams, bad thoughts, or actual events.
i am afraid of dying alone, drowning, and being burned or burried alive.
i had many more fears when i was little but by connecting with those and seeing for myself there was no harm in them, i got over them.



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Fear starts with not being excepted, we all like to be liked, we do what we do to fit in.
Our DNA has built in survival fears ie.. spider, snake.
DNA also I believe has something from our past, the watchers or nephilim .. warning us about vampire like creatures …. And here we are in all our bliss



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Many phobias are inborn reflexes to protect us from potentially hazardous things (such as snakes, spiders, etc).

However, when the phobia is something that is negatively affecting your daily life and has little relevance to survival (ex: fear when you see a snake or spider on TV), many psychologists use classical conditioning to help eliminate that fear.

Here is an overview of Pavlov's research on classical conditioning:

Reference-(http://allpsych.com/psychology101/conditioning.html)

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"Pavlov was a Russian physiologist who discovered this phenomenon while doing research on digestion. His research was aimed at better understanding the digestive patterns in dogs.

"During his experiments, he would put meat powder in the mouths of dogs who had tubes inserted into various organs to measure bodily responses. What he discovered was that the dogs began to salivate before the meat powder was presented to them. Then, the dogs began to salivate as soon as the person feeding them would enter the room. He soon began to gain interest in this phenomenon and abandoned his digestion research in favor of his now famous Classical Conditioning study.

"Basically, the findings support the idea that we develop responses to certain stimuli that are not naturally occurring. When we touch a hot stove, our reflex pulls our hand back. It does this instinctually, no learning involved. It is merely a survival instinct. But why now do some people, after getting burned, pull their hands back even when the stove is not turned on? Pavlov discovered that we make associations which cause us to generalize our response to one stimuli onto a neutral stimuli it is paired with. In other words, hot burner = ouch, stove = burner, therefore, stove = ouch.

"Pavlov began pairing a bell sound with the meat powder and found that even when the meat powder was not presented, the dog would eventually begin to salivate after hearing the bell. Since the meat powder naturally results in salivation, these two variables are called the unconditioned stimulus (UCS) and the unconditioned response (UCR), respectively. The bell and salivation are not naturally occurring; the dog was conditioned to respond to the bell. Therefore, the bell is considered the conditioned stimulus (CS), and the salivation to the bell, the conditioned response (CR).

"Many of our behaviors today are shaped by the pairing of stimuli. Have you ever noticed that certain stimuli, such as the smell of a cologne or perfume, a certain song, a specific day of the year, results in fairly intense emotions? It's not that the smell or the song are the cause of the emotion, but rather what that smell or song has been paired with...perhaps an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, the death of a loved one, or maybe the day you met you current husband or wife. We make these associations all the time and often don’t realize the power that these connections or pairings have on us. But, in fact, we have been classically conditioned."




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Some more info on classical conditioning and it's use in the treatment of phobias:

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"One of the most successful treatments is behavior therapy. In behavior therapy, one meets with a trained therapist and confronts the feared object or situation in a carefully planned, gradual way and learns to control the physical reactions of fear (American). The behaviorists involved in classical conditioning techniques believe that the response of phobic fear is a reflex acquired to non-dangerous stimuli (Phobia). The normal fear to a dangerous stimulus, such as a poisonous snake, has unfortunately been generalized over to non-poisonous ones as well (Phobia). If the person were to be exposed to the non-dangerous stimulus time after time without any harm being experienced, the phobic response would gradually extinguish itself (Phobia). In other words, one would have to come across ONLY non-poisonous snakes for a prolonged period of time for such extinction to occur (Phobia). This is not likely to occur naturally, so behavior therapy sets up phobic treatment involving exposure to the phobic stimulus in a safe and controlled setting (Phobia). Foa and Kozak call this exposure treatment, so called because the patient is exposed to the phobic stimulus as part of the therapeutic process (Phobia).

One simple form of exposure treatment is that of flooding, where the person is immersed in the fear reflex until the fear itself fades away (Phobia). The key is keeping the patients in the feared situation long enough that they can see that none of the dreaded consequences they fear actually come to pass (Wood 548). Some patients cannot handle flooding in any form, so an alternative classical conditioning technique is used called counter-conditioning (Phobia). In this form, one is trained to substitute a relaxation response for the fear response in the presence of the phobic stimulus (Phobia). This counter-conditioning is most often used in a systematic way to very gradually introduce the feared stimulus in a step-by-step fashion known as systematic desensitization, first used by Joseph Wolpe (Phobia).

In desensitization, three steps are involved:

1. Training the patient to physically relax

2. Establish an anxiety hierarchy of the stimuli involved

3. Counter-conditioning relaxation as a response to each feared stimulus beginning first with the least anxiety provoking stimulus and moving then to the next least anxiety provoking stimulus until all of the items listed in the anxiety hierarchy have been dealt with successfully (Phobia).

Also, systematic desensitization can be paired with modeling, and application suggested by social learning theorists (Phobia). In modeling, the patient observes others (the “model(s)”) in the presence of the phobic stimulus who are responding with relaxation rather that fear (Phobia). In this way, the patient is encouraged to imitate the model(s) and thereby relieve their phobia (Phobia). However relaxation therapy is not the only treatment used in curing phobias."



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I have almost no fears. My greatest weakness is the dark, mostly because of what may lurk in the shadows...



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Then there’s PANIC it’s origin was taken from the god PAN, when accused of worshiping PAN one Panic’d or latter when running from the forest god Pan it was panic.



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some people have fears because they never discover the truth about what they fear.
others have had terrible experiences that made them "fear" something.... or strongly dislike the thing/situation.
facing a fear head on and understanding the true identity of a fear is one way to not be scared of it...



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A hard thing to do around people who are constantly lending merit to irrational concepts, when a person recognizes something is not what they had thought, or been taught it was.. they over come the fear.. but then someone comes along (that gets their jollies by pressing the "unknown" angle to things) and the suggestion is rehashed in the person in the form of doubt. People that press "spooky tales" are not necessarily mean people, but lets face it spook bullies are pathetic. Especially when people they target become jaded to their "eerie/fear provoking concepts".



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Im only afraid of dying without being unknown



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You might often find that you're afraid of something because, basically, people around you have 'told' you to be afraid of it. I used to like spiders as a child, like let them crawl over my hands and that. Now I'm scared of spiders. Why? Because I've grown up being told that spiders are scary.
Everyone's afraid of something, I think everyone has a 'worst fear', or even several. One of my biggest fears is going blind.



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I know people that fear becoming homeless. I have been homeless a few times, this time it is because I quit a job that I had a valid reason to leave. The consequences though relevant, where less of a threat to me personally then what was happening on the job.



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I use to be afraid of thunder storms I would run and hide under my blankets when I was younger until one night I decided to stay above the blankets and realized that it wasn't as scary as I thought it was.



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my fear is death.



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My fear is to die alone



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I think people fear the unknown, ex, the dark death



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My fear is drowning, and it probably steems from my brothers death. to except it and confront it ids different to each of us.



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I have lots of little fears and phobias, but nothing I can't face, since my biggest fear is really fear itself.

I think fear is the result of feeling powerless or ignorant.



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The best way to deal with a fear is to face it straight on.
I am scared shitless of dead fish!
... I know that sounds riddiculous.
But since i was trained to serve fresh fish to customers in the supermarket where i work my fear became less and less...

Of course facing fear is not easy...
...But it's well worth doing.



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I understand facing fear, yet some are at the point of life and death and for them to do so is putting themselves into danger. like my fear of drowning, i still swim and dive yet i always have that fear in my mind. so facing it is good but if your afraid to be shot we will say don't go out and get shot to face your fear.......please.



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iam scared to death of spiders..... and yes like most it goes back to my childhood days when i was sleeping and woke to find a spider crawling on me.........ive tried getting over my fears even bought a turantula but it didnt work i ended up giving it to a friend.........



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21:25:15 Nov 20 2008
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I also notice people who like to claim others fear things they claim to have no fear about.. a vary odd behavior indeed, I think I just found my new study case.



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23:12:59 Nov 20 2008
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fear in all regards is in the minds of all and for those who say they fear nothing, they have yet to see or realize such fear inside the doors of their mind.



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23:56:05 Nov 20 2008
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I fear people that acctually think Chulhlu Exist, Not the Cult of Chulhu mind you, they are all about the spoof, I mean people that actually consider the possibility, A true cross over from mythos, to pathos.



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01:54:56 Nov 21 2008
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At a personal, physical level, I have two fears: Mirrors and Hypodermic Needles. Astrally and Spiritually, there are none. I'm still working on getting the physical fears out of the way.



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02:23:50 Nov 21 2008
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I need all the distractions I can get before they stick a needle in me



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LadyDarkRayne
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04:49:49 Nov 21 2008
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My Biggest fear as funny as it is, I am terrfied of clowns and basements.

I have no idea, but have been for as long as I can remember !



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