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I don't know about the rest of you but when I need to feed I tend to hold off till the last possible moment. I guess I think I can make it just one more day without what I know I need to make my life better.

What is it about feeding that we keep putting it off till our need becomes so bad that nothing else will work? What is it that we are so afraid of?

Any thoughts on this?

sometimes i think it is about control and perhaps some unresolved issues that result in guilt for feeding.

The control.....if i can wait...i am in control..but then when i can no longer control it......i am free to lose myself in the feeding...just a thought or two....

its all about the control if you can not control yourself well then you know what will happen

you probly hold off cuz you have a weakness for the other life you are taking to keep yourself alive... i really dont know but if i need to feed i go find a nice meal and take them down or i just go to a nice steak house and ask for a three inch raw bloody steak and a cup of blood.... its not the best blood i could consume but over the centries i learned its not health to be picky... humans blood is a nice little treat i indulge myself in every now and then not on a nighty bases, just twice a month....i think that is a low enough number dont you?? i would hope so.....your friendly AZUL....

I never put it off, if I need to feed, i will ask one of my friends, to let me have a bite, or I might just go and get me some fresh meat, and eat it raw. Its not the best thing ever, but if I need to feed it seems to do the trick

One more day, one more week, one more year; the longer we can hold off, the more self-control we exercise. And self-control is always a good thing. Besides, the feeling of being entirely self-dependant, not needing to feed on something outside of yourself is its own reward . . . at least to me.

hey thats my life i let it go untill i forgets about it and im ok with it , well cuz i finds something new,yep ^_^

Lown, I have to agree with you on this. As someone who denys what I am, and fights the hunger, wanting it to go away. You should find that balance, and keep it. But from my experience, I have nothing to curb it, so I ignore it as best I can

I have a constant flow of Energy at all times...Feeding is never an issue...

Maybe it's the concept that once you do feed it's going to be so much better, or the fact that you don't want to feed because of what it entails.

Perhaps it's the feeling that you get whenever you finally do feed. That need that has been fulfilled after so long, the thirst that has finally been quinched. At least that's how it is for some.

I do not see a reason to ever put off feeding

Previously held ethical standards which are challenged by a new state of being, coupled with a lack of opportunity.

I don't put off feeding. I have found that feeding more often with less food helps my metabolism greatly. Unfortunately when I am at work, I cannot do this, so I basically go without for 6 hours at a time, and eat a small meal inbetween shifts. It am hungry, but I also chew gum to give my mind something else to focus on, besides work.

My problem is finding willing donors. Or at least it has been up until now. When I lived in New York City I had no problem finding willing people that let me feed off of them. Now that I've lived in Washington it's proven difficult to find almost anyone. But after searching for 2 years I bet someone who is an all time any time donor for me specifically and one other person. This works out well for me and instead of putting off feeding like I normally did I can't wait for it everyday.

try becoming reclusive, and rethink your question

Why do you wait? Are You feeling guilty?
BLESSED BE

I try to hold out as long as I can. Even though sometimes that is a mistake, cause I end up waiting to long and have a huge craving. BUt it is a test on ones self.

i have found a perfect balance with feeding and not feeding. i have a new mate who is like me, well almost. i feed off of her sexual desires and that sustains me for weeks. even now while i am overseas i can feel her energy flowing thru me. of course when i get back she will exact a payment from me for feeding off of her, but that is a small price to pay.

Yeah, why put off feeding? 3 squares a day is a good thing.

well i guess it depends of the person. but for me if im hungry im eating. lmfao

It isn't an issue of control for me. I actually like the feeling of withdrawl. As sick as that may sound, it is true.

~Stri

i will never put it off if i need to feed i will find my pray and feed

To me it seems putting it off test my self-control and willpower. Also I often found when I wait and the anticipation grows, it is just that much better.

Im wonderig if this is a version of delayed satisfaction -- hold off hunger until it is unbearably itense and then, when you're about to burst -- you feed. Not only do you feed but its's always a rush because of the anticipation...just an opinion.

Dont kick yourself. I do the same damn thing. So, you kick me and Ill kick you hehe

I think we are probably afraid of loosing our humanity if we feed. For sangs, its hard sometimes not to see your donor as catal, but thats they way our brains work, they are food and we eat from them, we have to make them different and less than us in our minds otherwise we would feel like murderers or for psivamps, mental abusers/rapists. I think we all feel that way at times and that is what keeps us searching for a working alternative.

Just my thoughts. Take um or leave um.

I do eat food, but the vampiric hunger makes it worse lol. So Ignore it, and it works for me.

I try to keep my personal life private.... but feeding is a necessity.... If i cannot get blood then i just pull in the energy from around me...

Most likely it is the same with everything else that we do. We procrastinate. One of these days we'll learn to keep things in moderation.

BillytheJust,

I think your right, we do tend to procastinate in all avenues of our life not just feeding. Our lives are busy and taking time out to do something for ourselves however simple or necessary it might be is something we tend to put off till there is time.

I also believe that most of us have a difficult time finding a donor. And that also makes it harder to feed. Taking ambient energy is easy, its all around us but for those of us who are sanguine it isn't as satisfying or lasts as long as when we feed upon blood.

fyerstrike, if I knew how to do that, I would be a very happy camper lol

i have a constant supply of life energy and have not the need 4 it but still like it

i never put it off the need is always there so i just feed

I always feed little as it can be.... cannot stay without that contact with those around me. when i feed (i'm a psy) i feel more connected to the persons around me especially those i care about

drinking blood is like an addiction... the more you drink the more you want... but you want to controll it and you dont want to be addicted to it... blood is the drug and you dont want to be an addicted with all your body and mind.. thats why you try not to drink till the ast moment..

at least its what i think

I think it is a self control thing at least in my case. yet that is just my opinon.

I know some who say it is control thing and I believe it is also if you can hold out longer the more control they have over theirselves. just an opinon

I have a system of donors which helps but not a full supply.
There is the occassion in which I must revert to other methods.

Well there have been time's that i have felt guilty about feeding and i will hold out as long as i can, but now i am with it so i fed when i need to but only take what i need and move on.

Sometimes I think ..and this goes for just about anything we crave, need or desire...anticipation can be as delicious as the reward itself ;)

Some of the actions and feeling described here are similar to those of the drug addicts who want to quit... they try to resist until the very last moment to the need, and when the craving becomes really life threatening (in thir minds) they cave...
I am not saying that this is exactly the case here, but it looks awful alike...
Also, probably that this resistance comes from the deep conscience, from the idea of being different and being afraid of the results of the exposure to the large society, maybe is the need, the desire to blend, to be "normal" (normality in some groups can be veeeery different from most of our opinions and society's guidelines)... maybe, in the end, is a cry for help...

Ahriman, I partially agree with you. But I really do get enjoyment out of the anticipation. And out of the self control. Perhaps it is the sick sign of addiction, but I still enjoy it ^-^

Ahriman,

The difference here is that we need a willing donor and approaching someone about giving up their life force energy to someone who only exists in myths and legends makes us hesitate and in some cases hold off till the need is unbearable.

If it were simply an addiction only I would need is $$$ and I could have what I wanted.

No, you can have it for straight money. I'd do anything ANYTHING for enough money. You can buy people's lives a little bit at a time. We do it everyday.

just take control my self....by the way, i don't have problem with that

Thats true money is very powerful but I prefere to use more personal ways of getting willing donors.

Im not sure though I believe that this is a very good question that should bring up alot of excellent discussions.

yes i tend to do that as well. right now i am having the problem, actually. and i dont quite know why i do it. sometimes it's that i dont have anyone to feed from others its almost like i think that i'll be fine without it. but i'm not. i get really sick without it as i am right now.

i'm not afraid, but at the same time i am. i wont feed without the permission of the donor. i wont hunt and take without permission, if that's considered fear than i guess i'm afraid.

Emtpy .. I think I love you.. ohh ya.. that is me at golden corral... man oh man..
When i need to feed i feed thenn.. I can't wait...

i put off feeding for maybe a hour or two, but after that, the feedbag goes on!

Society has almost marked it as taboo. They say that it is wrong and there are places out there that you can get in trouble for physically feeding. We may not care what the outside community thinks about us but we cannot openly admitt it... It could cost us our jobs, friends, alot of things...

There has been a lot of discussion previously over whether or not feeding is a parasitic act...even from a willing donor. You are taking life energy without giving back...Perhaps there is fear in admitting that one is a parasite in nature.

I feed when I need to there is no waiting.

Why do YOU wait? Why do you feel the need too?

this entire comcept is completely new and in my eyes not true as i have been asked for someone to show me how this is done then i would become a believer maybe

I don't put it off. Put it is like I can't help it when I smell blood I go cazy. And I do it befor I een see what I am doing. That maybe becaues I have no controle I don't know but I know what you mean. And I think that is the world aroud us that or what little sole we hae left if you een have any...
.........xxx.......

it's all about control

What is it about feeding that we keep putting it off till our need becomes so bad that nothing else will work? What is it that we are so afraid of?

I thinkn, for those of us who are like this, it is from several things.
One I think that applies most, is that none of us really wants to believe we are so different in any way to humans. It stems from the psycological need to belong to a group. It is the same thing that makes a person buy a sweater that another person has. We all want to fit in.
The others may be, that when some feed, they loose control, or may give up their self control to that primal adesire.
Or maybe we just don't want to see the effect it has on the other person? To see, or to engage in a situation that has the potential to cause so much harm to another, or even yourself.
That's what I think anyway.

I think for the most part every aspect of life has to be Balance and Controll...
When you need to Feed why put it off... Nevr put off your Desires no matter what they may be! Wicked Kisses!

Subconciously you know that being nostalgic for something heightens the pleasure when you finally get it.......

Yea, I think a lot of people hold off for various reasons. But in the long run I don't think deprivation for any reason does anyone good. But I suppose that is obvious. However maybe it is more pleasurable to some if they wait.

For me...I don't go around people much, so then I just try not to think about it! I don't have to control & try not to do it, if I'm not really around people much! I've been doing this way for years, so it's become kind of instinct when the urge hits, I stay away from everyone for a good while! Maybe not the best way, but it's my way & it works for me!

I've been putting it off for near on a year.

Until this week.

And it was good.

I feel better than I have in a long, long time.

Yummy.

i think that holding off on feeding is silly unless you have to. i havn't had a blood donor in a while, so no blood for me. but, i don't ever put it off to try and see if i have self control, or test myself or anything like that. you're just asking for trouble cause when you do finally feed, you may go overboard. when available, feed often!

I don't put it off, never a need to. A friend of mine, long ago, used to put it off until he was mad...he could never say why...I used to see it as a form of self punishment he was inflicting upon himself for reasons he only knew or maybe he didn't know.

Our conscience, guilt, feeling like we aren't in control . . . I think those are the main reasons why someone would hold off on feeding.

I try not to feed around my family and friends...

its generaly about self control when i put feeding off. Trying to see how long i can go without feeding before the need to feed becomes unberable.

Personally, it is an intimate thing for me...and many others I would assume. So I wait to practice such things until I find someone I truly love and trust.

I can't say that I try to put off feeding. If I don't feed, I feel worn out, drained, I need that energy coming in. I do however, practice self-control. I will not feed from friends or family, and when I take in energy from stragers, I only take in a little.

I feel that some may put it off because they may feel bad or ashamed of it. Some may do it out of control and wanting to keep themselves in control. Some may not know what this craving or need is. Some may feel that society may frown upon them or judge them. Im sure there are many different reasons.

In this day & age.. .we're all freakin busy! Society has us running around like chickens without a head, leaving no time to really take care of ourselves.

Fortunately I don't have that problem but yeah, it all stems from control or lack thereof.

When I need to feed I feed but most of the time I just wait it's not that big of a deal for me lol ya right

I think it is a way of conditioning yourself so that if you ever have to go without it for a while you can

I think Lown said it best.. but each person is different as is each situation... Maybe you hold off till you cant take it any longer cause it is a more pleasurable or more enjoyable feeding

I like what was said by Greivious where you hold off till you cant take it anymore and then feed to get more pleasure from it. Having willpower is hard but does make the outcome more entense.

although i am not a vampyre i love the bite. the most important part is their ability to control their actions. so i must agree with those who say it is far more responsible to feed often in smaller amounts then it is to put it off untill all that is left is the need. Plus that way you have a greater chance of obtaining a steady donar.

now as for why you put off feeding. Control, Shame, Regret, Pleasure, and "Humanity" are the main reasons i know of. wether these reasons fit you i know not, but they are about as true it comes for a reason.

Like many others, I feel that the BEST reason to put it off till the last possible moment is to tease Yourself the wonderfully beautiful satisfaction You will get when You actually do feed. It is all about excitment, knowing something is hard to get but in Your power. Not to be too explicit, but sex is the same way. Teasing during sex is extremely hot and makes sex that much more intense and amazing. Same concept with the waiting on feeding....

Thoughts

slave devlin

It might be the fear of discovery that makes you hold back.

i think its good since it helps with not feeding so when you have to you can

You should feed when you get the need to, putting it off can hurt sometimes really badly, I found that out the hard way

I think, like everything, the longer you have to wait for it, the more satisfying it is when you get it. xXx

i think that most fear the acceptence of what they are.
its just a part of becoming what you are suppose to be though.
we all must go through it.

I wouldnt really know I can control myself plus If I need to feed then I ask a friend or get my own.... dont ask how!!!

i put it off for a very long time once. that was a horrible choice. i almost got to a point to where i could not phisicaly funtion and since i am also a psy i was taking more energy from the people around me than was healthy. i need both. blood and energy. i made some of my friends ill because i took too much energy from them without even knowing how much i was taking because my body was out of balance from not drinking blood when i needed it. so, if you are in a situation like me. do not hold off drinking blood. just feed when you need it.

i dont know why most of us put it off, but i feed at the first sign of me needing or wanting to

Hmmm.....I'm not a vampire, nor do I pretend to be, but maybe it's cuz you're testing your boundaries. Sorta like challenging yourself, to see how long you can go without it.
Shadowgirl

being afradhas nothing to do with it,its the feeling you get from being hungry and killing.

So, satanicvampyre,

Let me get this absolutely correct.

You advocate causing death during the feeding process, yes?

I've spent a great deal of my life in denial of what I am, and the more I tried to deny it, the more forceful the urges and carnal desires became.

Once I learned to be at peace with what I was, it came a lot easier for me.

Too true, Max, too true by half.

Your hunger is not less different than the hunger of an animal such as everyone else's who has such hungers. For me the putting off of this hunger is to feel like I am the one that is in control and it is to test my limits. Some feel that the putting off of this hunger defines them more as a person than an animal.

Mnay have been in your same boat Max. Its hard to come to grips with what you are and the fear of being judged. I happy to hear you have come to grips with it.

well i'm the kind of person that will not feed for 3 days but when i do i can't stop!

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