So I have been thinking. As usual.
What do you say when someone asks for your name? Lately I have not been responding with my name. I just go, "lordess is my name." And lordess happens to be the screen name that I use on VR. I have never felt comfortable in real life as compared to behaving and acting the way I do when I am behind the lordess persona. Ok, so I am slightly nuts. I just feel more comfortable being well... lordess. The one that responds to threads in the forum, and talks freely and openly about the esoteric, paranormal and supernatural to those she can click with. It's not like I am putting on a front. I just... am, well the strange, but Real lordess.
To those who feel more comfortable talking to those on VR... I pose a couple of questions to you.
Do you ever feel like you're putting on a front? Which is the real you? The one on VR (for those who take their interests, beliefs and .lifestyles. seriously or the role you take when you go about your daily life?
What do you do when you feel out of place in your life outside of VR? How do you go about coping with it?
Share your thoughts, kindred spirits.
I have often wondered about who the real me is, and I have come to the conclusion that the way I am on here, whether I'm talking to friends through PM or sitting in my cam playing around with friends or just being there not really talking, but knowing that others are there, is actually the real me.
In my life I have been through a lot, a very abusive relationship (where I learned how to be a very good actress and hide my true feelings), to going through a divorce, and just recently losing 3 family members since August, I find that I still hide my feelings and have the need to hide behind a mask.
There are many people on here who have come to know the real me. I do not lie, I am truthful and very up front...
If any of you want to get to know the real me, shoot me a message, I always like to talk to and meet new people on here.
I dont like putting on fronts. I can if I have to, but its not normal for me to do so.I am the same here as I am everywhere.
Lordess, I agree with you that VR is a very nice place to openly talk about various paranormal things and I post a lot of things like that on here that I never would on Facebook because, well, it's just not accepted by the general and main stream population and that's not exactly what VR is.
I usually do hide that aspect of my life outside of VR when I'm not with people that share similar views on it.
I'm also more comfortable telling people on VR that I'm bisexual with a general preference of girls, it's not Facebook official and only my close friends and none of my family know outside of VR and they won't for about a year when I'm ready to move out and go to college.
other than those two things I pretty much am on here who I am in real life, not quite as talkative and a little more shy at first but that's it, if you saw me on the street and started talking to me I'd pretty much be the same person.
My personality is the same everywhere. The difference is that, on here I talk more about certain topics, but it's the same on other sites I go to. Offline I'm an introvert, but this thing is part of me, so whether I'm talkative or quiet I am myself.
Aside from members having never met me, there is little difference between the real world and online life for me. The biggest one being that I don't display a picture of myself. Otherwise I see no need to put up a front.
I spend more time online than being around people. I also use facebook, so people who are my friends know my real name. I don't mind if people know my real name. I like being online more. That way I can be on or off when I want.
I am always the same personality, but I have friends with different beliefs- religious and political- who I relate to in some ways, but not others. I don't feel that I fit completely with any one person, so I find areas of "fittedness" with different people, but I'm still me- I just don't share everything with everyone.
I am no different on the Rave than I am in life. I simply don't tell many of those immediately around me who I really am, because it's not of their concern. The only real reason for which I seem to be different in either case is because I know that most people won't tawme seriously, when I tell them the truth about myself. And frankly, that's tthe way I prefer it to stay.
To be blunt about myself and my own nature, I won't deny that I am one twisted/demented individual, be it on here or when I walk tge streets at night and day. The way I see it, if people don't lije the way I am, then they can simppy either ignore me and be ignorant of who I really am, besides what they see only with their Mundane eyes, or they can simply accept that I am whom and what I am, and nothing will ever change it. I don't put on a 'front' of any manner, because there is no need of it. Some people will see one side of me and others will see something else. It only depends upon what they want to see and if they are capable of seeing past a very "estranged" shell, which is all I will show them.
We all wear "masks" when we assume roles in our day-to-day lives. We act one way when taking on roles of responsibility and another way when it's a night out with a couple of people we know. I have to agree with NLW and Tzaddi. There are certain aspects of our personalities that we prefer revealing in the online world. Sometimes we cannot choose what we reveal to certain people. But the effect of the darkness and definitely not mainstream aspect of this site is tremendous. This is it for some of us. What we are in our offline lives is a mere extension of what goes on online. Perhaps if viewed in this light, it may be that we are not putting up a front. But there are people who act differently and use their online persona as a means of escaping who they truly are.
I have very few close friends offline. Most people can't handle my attitude and I see no reason to change my attitude just to satisfy the needs of someone who can't accept me for who I am. I don't expect that of friends and shouldn't have to change for friends. Not everyone wears so called masks.
I do the role thing, at home, at work, with friends, whatever I do, they're all myself. I don't really see it as wearing a mask, but rather adapting to the situation.
You can never truly escape who you really are. It will always come out in some way.
Well, I'm into the BDSM scene and the Master was added to my name which is of course Mel. I've no problem giving out my real name
Interesting topic. My cyber name is the name that I use with friends and people that I meet in the street or the gym. My real name, the one giving to me by my ancestors, is the one that I use to open bills, like electrical, water and cable. If you call me from behind with both name, I will respond. The real me: Is just me.
dabbler started as a nickname when I was a Vagabond, Hitchhiker, it referred to my wide array of Hobbies. It just seemed natural as a username.
That is like asking if there is life after death or if our lives really matter. You allow yourself to be who you want to be. A name is just a name, its who is behind that name that makes you who you are. If living behind a name on the internet suits you better then by all means go for it. But no one is limited to who they are because of a name. I have many nicknames but out of all of them I am only just me. Its easier for the real you to come out over the internet because one can do and say things and not have to worry if they aren't using their real name. But also many people hide behind a false identity and allow a fantasy to become reality. So its a choice really to decide who you really want be.
I guess I have more than one "me." There's the work-a-day guy and then there's the internet posting guy. I guess it is the responsibility of each person to find forums, online or otherwise, where they can find people that that he or she identifies with. In my mind creativity and originality are always a plus along with freedom of expression.
kannin is my gamer and user name for alot of things, and in real life its my nickname now so the real me is kannin because i can express my self in more ways with kannin than i can my real name because i dont use my real name in alot of things
This name signifies me the best, but my personality is who I am anywhere and everywhere I go. I have no reason to fake myself.
I kind of go by many personalities without realization.
Real life me- Quiet, self kept, anti social, dont like people
Online VR- Happy, hyper, I speak my mind, Im a trouble maker with my friends, I flirt with men because its fun! I jump up on the table you sit at baby I dont care (and honestly the persona on VR is who I want to be in real life but at this point and time I cant be that person so...))
Roleplayer.me- Hell Im a lot of different people! But I know the difference between my characters I play and who I am though on VR and real life Im kind of polar opposites but eh I have fun with what I do!
Persona is a mask,the real me is invisible to the senses,the real me is vast
real me ? i dpnt know who i am or what i am anymore .. even when iam alone and no mask look to the mirror : who are you, i say to my self . most times i feel notihng like i stuck in the grey zone , but when i feel feel someting i feel pain and sadness . pitch black and nothing inside me . maybe thats i like nights more . iam a lost my mind i dont know .
I do not hide my nature and many are offended by my belief's, yet few are truly conjoined in my world and I require no thought of their biased ideologies.
I feel that I am more the real me on here. I am stripped of my roles in life parent, sibling, exc. It is easier just to be the person just standing alone without family or coworkers to judge my beliefs.
I've always felt more comfortable online. I just joined this particular site, but in general I tend to be more open about myself online. So I guess the real me is here. ^_^
Pascha is my real name. My father gave me at my birth. Darla is also my real name. I figure I have always been odd and I have the names to actually prove it.
I would say for myself their are many faces I wear and things all depend upon who I am that day and what I'm talking about .I would find ir hard to believe my opinions or manners would change to differently though.
Its taking me years to find the real me, I am more happy with myself now more so than 6 yrs ago... I was a mess 6 yrs addicted to drugs, and using ppl to get what i wanted.. love, companionship, a place to stay...
when my daughter was born I started living for someone other than myself and my whole world changed for the better, I have a better outlook on life and ppl, and I have tried to make amends to all the ppl I have hurt...
as for who is the real me, the person i am today is the real me, with all my life experiences, the things that I've done and been thru I am make me who i am, and I'm better because of it...
I just give my first name and I do that when someone shares there name with me. I am just me; how I am here I am like this off the internet. What you see is what you get. So the real me is who I present. Don't really know what else to present. Just me.
I think on any internet site, social network ect, you can only get a small feel for the person behind the profile. Many embellish, hold back or even flat out lie to fit in or to try and express themselves.
I think it really takes some one on one communication for people to feel completely comfortable with one another to build that bond.
I use my real name Christopher Alexander Eaton most everywhere I go. cvrajitoare92 is the username I have for my email and I use it on most all online forums and such. My personality online is no different off. It is apart of me and not something I am ashamed of. Yes most people think I am odd and usually avoid me but it does not bother me. In school and the years since I have graduated nothing has changed. I have a lot of time to myself and have not needed to conform to societal norms. I have no need to work or bother myself with becoming "presentable" for others so I have somewhat allowed myself to become a "Stigma" to my family as well as most who know me. Which is something I enjoy greatly.
the japanese say you always where a mask to make yourself acceptable to society.anime fans never show their reall face here or on facebook.but the mask cane become a reality itself if you where it long enough.ive got a couple of penfrinds who invented fake names for themselves and the names became reall after a while.the goverment started calling them names thet invented.
Which is why I mentioned that we all "wear masks" in our daily lives. In some cultures, including theatre, the mask demonstrates a different persona - some form of vulnerability and perhaps even security. To some, admitting that wearing these "masks" may be a form of not being true to others or maybe even a sign of weakness in oneself. But that is just not true.
I think too on the mask issue it can also be a defense used that we do not open up to people right away and that there has to be some trust and a desire to form some type of friendship to allow people to see the 'real' you. I agree as well with how we do wear different mask as was pointed out in the thread some are different at work then home or socials and there too depending on the type of social to who you might present of which side of your personality.
Lordess I have asked myself that many times....ppl say * oh its just a website*... That may be true but what they seem to forget is that there are real ppl on the other end of that text with feelings...bur I do not tell ppl my real name
What you see is what you get with me...apart from in work where I do put a front up...
I think i act depending on the people and i allow my more submissive side on vr
Keeping who I REALLY am contained for these people is very difficult... But if I don't they will die... Sometimes i wonder if it's for better or for worse....Sometimes i dont care which... But I STILL contain myself... I can wait...
I very rarely give out information about myself such name and phone # address IRL and same online
If ppl ask for my name I either give them the name on my birth certificate or the name my ex mother called me and not the name friends use for me
After knowing someone for awhile I tell them to look it up or do give them address and cell
If ppl want to get in touch with me outside of online sites they do by messenger or one of the emails I have
I haven't always been like this just for the past 5 years cause you never know if a person will give out information about to you to someone you don't know or to someone you don't want to have that information cause you don't want them in your life any longer
All I have to say is I act the same way in my real life as I do on here I'm me nothing more and nothing less
I know who I am. On the internet, I have created literally dozens of identities for various reasons.
For software engineering, I use my actual name, and the company name "Temple Of Transgression". The reason for the name of the company is quite simple: I develop software, backengines and databases that would normally take an entire development team to create and maintain. I use any means possible to create these monstrosities. My method of obtaining data are ethically questionable, but entirely legal pursuant to current federal laws and regulations under jurisdiction of the United States. My results often seem theoretically impossible, but somehow, manage to pass extensive scrutiny and benchmark testing. In layman's terms, I do the improbable, and I do it running a one-man show, with the occasional outside consultants, only three of which have ever proven to be trustworthy. I've also ghost written nearly 120 published tech articles.
When I write stories, I release them under a self depreciating anagram disguised as a pseudonym. The subject matter of the stories contain a lot of uncomfortable, explicit, psychologically traumatizing content mixed with factual information and disturbing social commentary. When reading this type of fictional material, I like to create the illusion of the writer being someone who should be involuntarily committed. However, since its fiction, it's meant to be morbidly entertaining. As such, a reader who attempts to psychoanalyze the literature will find that their half-baked assumptions speak more about the reader than the person who wrote it.
Musically, I release solo material under the name Shadowglass Project. Generally, the forbidden will change with each release, even different tracks from the same albums sounding like they were written by different individuals. With the exception of obvious covers, and one track on my next release, again, one-man show.
When I play MMORPGs, I use whatever name I damn well please, and usually take over a general market within a short period of time, essentially, controlling the economy of an entire server. I also have a habit of breaking game mechanics because most people aren't smart enough to understand THAC0, or even simple mathematical concepts like nonlinear and/or recursive functions. As much shit
as I talk in-game, I make sure that I can more than back it up, which usually results in idiot users AND devs accusing me of cheating because they lack the capacity to understand functional game mechanics.
On most sites, I use the name idbeholda, which is a cheat code in Doom. I've used this name online since '97. In unnamed communities, I've used as many as 15 different unique handles, each with their own personality and grammatical structure. In this regard, I enjoy getting a reaction out of people, and this is not exactly a well kept secret. In fact, it's common knowledge. Chances are, if I don't like you, you'll know it within a relatively short period of time, and subsequently, I will troll the fuck out of you until I either get bored, or I'm satisfied that you've learned your lesson.
In real life, I'm actually pretty friendly, easygoing, and quite sociable. If I don't like you, you'll know it, and I'll find a way to publicly humiliate you, if I'm robbed the wrong way, which is pretty hard to do. Yes, I am an attention who're, and if you're still reading this, you probably are too.
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I go by Rayne on VR not because I hide behind a persona but because it is a part of me....Everything I post or say to someone here I would say to them in RL. The only difference is the name...but I will say some people on VR do know my real name. I use VR as a way to express myself. There was a time when it did feel like I was another person - I was able to show the real me here on VR and not in the RL. But since I have been able to be myself in the RL and not be judged or looked down upon and I have made peace within myself...I do not feel as though I am putting on a masquerade or front. I believe for some people, making profiles here on VR is a way of escaping or simply being able to be themselves freely without the judgments of RL. But I have to say there are some...those few who do lie about everything and use their profiles to manipulate people and are just predators.
I have been asked that question and I get funny looks when I answer 'Niffy'
It is derived from my full first name 'Jennifer'... when I became older and felt I could identify with myself more thoroughly. I then wanted something a bit more 'original' to me... so 'Niffer' came about (last half of Jennifer) Instead of the more widely used Jen or Jenny.
Not that I don't like these, just felt the need to express myself differently.. lol
It morphed into the present day 'Niffy' which I use in everyday life. It seems to be a nice convo starter (which works to my advantage because I am horrible at starting those! haha)
There is no difference between the two for me... What you see is what you get. I don't pretend to be anyone but myself wether playing in the virtual or regular world.
My personalty is slightly different on vr is a fantasy almost like a game , but to some take it seriously, and over react, snickers
to each there own!
I am the same person on VR as I am off. I don't believe in going by a persona. I have nicknames but they are not my persona because I am the same person. I don't act any different. I've never been a fantasy kind of person or cared for role playing it's just not my thing. I understand that everyone is different but I just thought I'd share.
This place just allows me to feel comfortable enough to share a little bit more info than say facebook or twitter. But am still the same person regardless
Pfft, if you interact with me here, then you got the same lunatic in real-time. I'd apologize, but I come across pretty clear with the loony. If anything, you can just rest assured that my crazy never manifests physically. Just verbal.
When I first came on here and wrote out the masterpiece of my very first profile, I must've come off like some night-humping hater of all things that weren't magical. I was like wayyyy worse than Voldemort, except I was a poser. I'm no witch, hardly even a bitch! Still, I was also new, had a chip on my shoulder, monkey on my back, holes in my socks and was learning my way around here.
I figured the more bloody and badass I was, the better. Instead, I gave myself nightmares about myself.
Now, I can be bloody and badass, but it has not one thing to do with anything supernatural. Just muggles.
I dont put up any fronts.. I am who i am on VR and in real life... I just dont trust ppl enough on the internet to give out my real name...
I've always told people that have been curious of me, who i am. I don't see a point of pretending to be something I'm not or someone else. Only people that have insecurities or have something to hide have these sort of traits and I don't associate with those that can't be as real as i am with them. I know there are people out there that don't always have the best intentions, but that's why i'm very particular about who i get close with to share the personal aspect of me. If they want the basics, they have it. If they want more, they'll have to earn that right of passage. lol
vampire rave is the only place.
ether
in real life or cyber space
I can be the real me.
it is illegal to be who I am and what I am outside of this place.
here I can pour out of my demons and let them go freely.
I do not want nor do I have any attention of ever letting anyone outside of vampire rave know the real me.
the few times I tried.
turned out to be a terrible mistake.
vampire rave is a place filled with monsters lurking behind every dark corner. that might seem over dramatic but I know the truth of this place.
and the real face of most of the creatures I come across here.
and with that.
in the land of predators.
I feel right at home here!
i am always me, theres no way i can be something im not. And i happen to like my self why change :)
I`m more open here than in the real world.Even the Name Sangreas,which I use on here used to be my Fraternity nickname.The poetry which I put on my Profile is poetry which no one besides VR members sees.My Journal is also open.So while I may not be 100% open on VR,I am more open here than in real life
I AM,NO MORE THEN WHO I TRUELY AM,I AM ME, ALL THE TIME.I DONT LIVE A LIE. I AM WHO I AM.OM,ONE WITH THE UNIVERSE,Elviscat
I am a collection of the masks that I alone choose to wear on any given day, each serves the purpose for which it was chosen to promote my agenda.
I feel like I can be more myself online than I am in person. The problem I have is the way I think and what I believe, is unacceptable to those close to me, so I keep certain things to myself. Unfortunately I have to live a lot of my life in secrecy. I will say I am more outgoing online than I am in person. But as far as my interests and beliefs, what I say is who I am. I don't convey myself as something that I'm not, even online. To answer your question about how I deal with things outside of VR, well,... this is basically how I deal. I have to live a separate life in order to really be myself.
I think it's not about the name, everyone is free to choose a name they like here and it doesn't makes you a different person, the thing here is that this site mean to be free of the stigmas that exist in almost every society outside the web and that's just another field of the same life lived by the same person... this is just my point of view, by the way my real is Victor and yeah i do like Vikktor as well.
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People online refer to me as Immy, more of then than they do by my real name, Nicole. However, that's pretty much the only difference between the online me and the me in reality. I don't hide who I am here or in the real world, because as Bones said, why should I change myself to satisfy the needs of another? I have played parts before, when I was younger as more a coping mechanism in order for me to face reality day in and day out. I had a lot of personal issues I had to deal with when I was in my teens. But, since I have grown, I find that hiding behind a mask is pointless. I don't play parts simply because I find it far too hard to keep up such fronts and lies. It is far easier for me just to be who I really am than it is for me to wear this mask or that mask, to play this part or that part.
Why hide who we truly are? That just means the rest of the world wins. Thats just conforming to everyone elses wishes. instead be your true self, and care less what the rest of the thinks,says or does. Be proud of who you are. That where your true beauty lies.
Great thread, lordess!
Many folks here know my real name - first name anyway. I don't hide my age, or use an avatar that isn't me...the avatars may be highlighted in an somewhat 'artistic' way, but it's still me.
I'm pretty much the same offline as I am online. The pics are of me, the big mouth is me, the opinions, sense of humor, etc.
At work and in more formal settings, I behave myself most of the time...lol
I use my real name when in public, but on VR I use LadyDelilah. My middle name is Delilah, so not much difference.
Trouble is my middle name in VR
And it is IRL
*smiles*
I use Raven because that name suits me. I am not a complicated person & don't relate to those who are. If I extend my hand in friendship, I mean it.
The 'Kat' in real life and on here are really about the same. I type the way I talk, I say the things I'd say- I even prefer to be called Kat on here instead of Frenetik. Anyone who knows me calls me Kat on here. Anyone who calls me "Kat", I talk to the same way.
However, I do act differently when I'm called "Katherine". It's more of a professional thing. I've been called by that by professors, employers, etc. I wouldn't say that it's not me, it's just a part of me- the grown-up, professional part of me.
Both are the real me, but then again, I'm not a very enigmatic person.
Easy, both and all are you. For we are meant to be multisided. Who wants to be just one way all the time, boring. So have fun with all your sides as long as you are true.
For me unfortunately I have to keep some of my true nature hidden from my family for they would not understand and are very closed minded.Other than that my personality is the same on and off line .
I'm perfectly happy to give out my first name but that's it. I'm too scared of internet stalkers and such. Naylastar is an online name I have been using since I was 11. I've never pretended to be anything but what I am online.
I'm the same here as I am everywhere else. Socially awkward and shy. I never ever put up any sort of front. I can't, I'm terrible at it. I wish I could because I'd probably have a lot more friends and life would be a little easier for me. But I suppose none of those people would actually know the real me so then, what does it matter?
It's interesting you should pose that question Lordess because I have been pondering the exact same question myself. I am still striving to find that balance. I hope to get it all figured out at some point but for now I definitely do have my "daytime" and "nighttime" accounts, profiles etc. It does like a lot to keep up with sometimes but sometimes in our society it seems sadly enough to still be necessary.
Oh yes and in answer to your question I feel they are both the "real me". Just different aspects of myself in response to the situation and my environment. Perhaps it is some type up survival response that keeps those of us that are different, or "other" alive longer ;)
I am who I claim to be on here. I do wear a mask of perky happiness in rl. Just cause most people don't understand or want to deem me crazy. Here I can let loose even with my mental illness and not be judged. Everyone I have met so far with select few. Are so sweet and open minded to hat I go through on a daily basis and I love it.
Here on VR I am free to express what I want to talk about because there are not to many people around where I live that really delve into the occult (that being said living in the heart of the bible belt) not to mention many who are clueless do not having an understanding and would have you committed in a heartbeat or put you scizo meds. Point being is that people are afraid of what they do not understand. Here I can discuss what I want when I want and people in VR land listen. As for what name I use, I use my real name, but in the paintball world I go by Rabbit, and that sad part is I respond to the name because I've used it so often, so yes I can relate. as for my VR names, they are just character names of the novel I am writing.
This is the place where I can be myself. What you see is what you get here. Unfortunately in my working life I must wear a mask and also need to wear one around some people in my life. I have recently made changes in my personal life so I can take the mask off at home. Divorce is tough to go through, but it is tougher to live a lie in your own home.
I feel more relaxed on VR to be my true self, not afraid to speak my mind and express myself as I am. Where as in real life I find I need to be more tactful when face to face with the person.
I also fear society, you say something wrong in real life and you are liable to be shot or beaten half to death. So its safer in real life to keep aloof and be indifferent.
Freedom is illusory. I will even say that we can never, as long as we are bound to thus world, ever be truly "free". The society in the non-virtual life can be unforgiving, yes. They have successfully instilled fear in the ones who see things differently, the rebels. To fight for freedom is an ongoing battle. It never ends. People are different. To be imposing authority, force, values and morals on others is just wrong. People should do what they want to do. Maybe there is no Real you, afterall. You are the product of your experiences in life... Of course I am not speaking for the truly crazy ones with too many facets of personality. ;)
While I agree that you do change due to certain experiences,it has nothing to do with the real you.Certain base parts of you will always be there whether you're 20 or 80.So those basic subconscious ideas are what truly define us,at least that's how I see it
These are very good questions. In my personal belief,
we all have different sides we show...there is the public side, the private side, and it tends to mood where
we are at, the atmosphere that is around us...we
have people that we only show certain sides to, and
ones we can completely be ourselves with. I think
people are many, and not just one particular person.
I have my darker side which comes out through
my poetry, and my more lighter side, social when
it comes to being around my church family. I balance
both worlds pretty good...I am who I am and not
denying either part.
Im the same in rl and in virtual world. If somebody ask me my real name i tell. I have nothing to hide. I didn't do nothing to feel shame in my rl. but I don't tell who im i to my family, because they would not understand me. For sunday lounch whit my family i put my mask on and sheep chlotes. And act like a sheep. I know how rude and evil can be people to someone who is a little bit different then they are. but whit my friends i am who i am,Speak open about eny topic.
And sorry for my bad english enyway.:)
Now that I've been here for a bit, I find it easier to open up & express myself. Nothing earth shaking, but more than before.
Few folks really know me, but I've been on VR for a VERY long time (this is my 2nd SN, first was deleted ages ago). I actually learned about the site through Cancer's Vampire Radio.
I am not a VtM RPGer. I don't play this 'I've lived for 300+years, and I'm a lord so you should bow down to me' etc, etc.
-I- am exactly how my profile reads, and if others need verification, I'll give it as needed.
I classify myself as a HLV (Human Living Vampire), dominantly Psi/Psy, more sang-based feedings due to the double blood transfusion I was given to replenish what was lost when I had my son. Turns out I was in fact anemic at the time.
Do I keep some things hidden from 'public' view?
Of course. Everyone fears what they don't understand, but if someone asks with respect, I answer in kind.
I've also
I'm the same online as I am in the real world. I'm an open book generally, I don't feel ashamed of anything about myself. I'm into the paranormal, why's it weird to tell others that? I used to supervise seances as part of my job. My fiancé and I sometimes wear vampire fangs to parties. I've always worked on being the person I want to be, and am cool with being the same person on the net as I am in the real world. People I've met online therefore are not surprised by anything when we meet in reality.
I've never felt a need to be anything or anyone else, but I can understand that others' circumstances are different and they might feel comfier being "someone else" (still yourself though, really) or having a different persona online.
I'd agree because of the social stigma concerning parts of who I am and what I believe and practice
Here I'm much more quick to tell people and post certain aspects of me and my beliefs because they also tend to not act like it's that big of a deal, like they can leave a bitchy comment in my journal but don't
There are people who know the real me in real life but you will rarely see any posts about it on my facebook wall
The only time i notice i change with my self is when im working, or with a group of people i dont know, i tone it down. my obnoxiousness, which i dont think im not that obnoxious,
i just tone down my language or sense of humor.
When working im professional,
With new people i feel it out, till i get a better sense of what these new people are all about.. then i from there...
I am always the real me but it depends on who is asking and how they ask as to how much of the real me i show. And thats not just on here its in every situation i have some trust issues(yes dont we all) so if i feel uncomfortable with someone although they get the real me they dont get all ofit if that makes sense.
I am who I am.. I'm actually proud of how well I described myself in my profile, but that is only a bare sketch of me.
I am the same person everywhere I go, I don't fake it or hide anything. I don't put on masks or pretend anything. I am perfectly comfortable with myself and I know myself very well.
I am myself regardless of where I may be or what site I am on. I don't believe in fronts or playing games.
I'm honest and if that offends people so mote it be. If you ask a question and cannot face the truth of the answer then don't ask it of me.
With that said, even I get hurt at times by falsehoods of others, I find that at times I am too trusting and that will change, I am more guarded now but still prefer to be honest although there are others that lie and are deceitful. Sad but true!!
Hmmm i do love this topic.
Let's see, i Believe in telling the truth no matter where or what you do. But in some cases you may want to hang back and protect yourself from the wackos that are out there.
I never use my real name on VR. In RL though I don't care. So I guess you can say I'm more reserved in my internet fantasy then in real life. In real life i am loud, opinionated, and some even may call my intimadating.
I am the real me, here and otherwise. I have nothing to hide, and I'm not worried about stalkers. I don't have anything anyone can steal, and my credit sucks. I realize that people online sometimes pretend to be someone they are not. That''s fine with me. I wouldn't have an "internet romance" with anyone, real or not. I've heard a lot of interesting stories about them, but I have no interest in them. Also, I treat people the way i would expect to be treated. So if someone is a jerk, or whatever, I just ignore them. So, yes, I am real, here and in every day life.
This is a great topic that I was JUST discussing with my mentor.
And it seems from the replies that most people are more themselves here than they are in bizzaro world "real reality".
I would agree.
In fact, my name in Joseph.
Like the one on my birth certificate, thus Josephus.
The name is linked mostly to a Jewish/Roman scribe who carved his niche in history with an account of Jesus.
But I can tell you that I cannot freaking stand liars.
Not at all.
They disgust me.
But people who are upfront about what they are, and who they are.
I respect the crap out of that because it takes courage.
Cheers.
@ Tzaddi-
"I have nothing to hide, and I'm not worried about stalkers. I don't have anything anyone can steal, and my credit sucks. "
Classic!!
I can totally relate.
I am the same everywhere.. its just that I only choose who to show *me* to.. the rest only see part.. but its all still me..
I am the same in rl as i am on here i dont hide behind anything there is a real picture of me in my portfolio if anyone wants to know my name i will tell them, this is like many others a social media network site and i like to talk and make friends with people of all ages and opinions.
I don't put on a front or masks whether online or off. I say what's on my mind when I feel like it. Most people don't bother to try to get to know me and I don't see the need to offer up information. However, I do answer all questions asked with complete honesty. I find it extremely funny when people act surprised to find something out about me by accident. I've had people profess shock at some of my musical tastes saying that I don't seem the type. I actually told one person that if they had bothered to ever ask I would've told them a long time ago and that only stupid people assume to know others just by the way they look. I think they wanted to hit me for offending them with that one.
I'm me nothing more nothing less. however, those who wish to know me will. other then that its no ones concern.
I am the real me in and out of vampirerave, im not a blood drinker or anything like that, im simply me and i enjoy being here on this site, smiles i am glad to be in the community,
is that simple
I don't give my real name out online at all unless it's to family and very close friends. I have two seperate faebook accounts. Not because I'm over paranoid or anything, but I feel my day to day life should stay seperate from my "other" life.
I do feel like I am fronting a lot because there are some things I make up on my profiles. No, I don't think that's wrong, I just don't give real world information out.
I am Trayci Fate Draakon. I am Dragon. That is who and what I am. Friends and family have called me Dragon for as long as I can remember. I am the same here as if you were to meet me face to face. Putting up a front is useless if you are searching for real friends. It is better to be up front and proud of who you really are.
I believe the real me is the same online and in real life, with the exception of what I call myself online. I never try to offend anyone, and I always try to be honest/genuine.